Appropriety? (funeral)

[KiltedMariner]

Greetings,

Can I wear the kilt to a funeral? I was going to, but it was suggested it may be distracting, given the occasion. It was not an admonishment of my kilt-wearing proclivity, but rather an attempt to help me avoid a f aux pas.

Thoughts?

[CDNSushi]

Well, since we've dedicated a few recent threads to weddings, I suppose it's only fair to ask about funerals too, isn't it? That's a good question that I wish I knew the answer to. I suppose it would depend on who passed away and what relationship you had with the family and friends who would be in attendance.

[Nighthawk]

Given the fact that all I own as to waiste-down clothing is kilts and one stained, beat up pair of jeans... I would say that for myself, the kilt is more appropriate. Also, kilts are seen in profusion at funerals for uniformed men, such as firefighters and police officers. If it's good enough for them, it's damned sure good enough for anyone. At least, that's my take. For what it's worth.

Welcome to the board. I'm saddened that it has to be under these circumstances, but stick around- we really are a great community.

[KiltedMariner]

I'm saddened that it has to be under these circumstances, but stick around- we really are a great community.

Thanks. Not a worry. This was a funeral event that has already passed; I played safe and wore a black suit.

Cheers!

[ThistleDown]

I'm sure acceptability is dependant on where you are, so bear in mind that my advice here only relates to Scotland and Canada. Sadly, I am at an age when attending funerals is becoming more frequent, so I'll just tell you what I have been wearing for the past dozen years or so: charcoal grey, dark tweed and black jackets (no silver), always with a vest, a white shirt (never coloured), dark grey or black tie, and solid-colour hose (no tartan, no dicing and always black or charcoal-grey or charcoal-green), black flashes and black brogues.

I guess I'm fortunate in having a number of tartans in the closets to choose from, but my dear and so-observant wife tells me that the kilts I have been wearing most often to funerals over the last few years are a modern Davidson pleated to sett (that makes it pretty dark), Seaforth Mackenzie for the funerals of "Budge" Bell-Irving and Smokey Smith, Clan Chattan by Jamie Scarlett for the funeral of the late Mackintosh, and a muted Davidson woven by Dalgleish 35 years ago or more just last week.

[David Dalglish]

You can wear a kilt to a funeral, I have. I have worn my Black watch kilt, Carcoal grey Balmoral jacket-white shirt with black tie, black hose & flashes,

[Joseph McLaren]

I'm no expert, but my instinct would be to do what you did, and 'play it safe'. Unless you know that those hosting the funeral really wouldn't mind, it can't hurt to err on the side of caution at a funeral imho

[GMan]

I have gone to funerals Kilted. At one I went to the mother was so happy to see that I was because her son always said he enjoyed them.

[Mr. Kilt]

My mother-in-law passed away last month. She had always thought I looked "so handsome" in my kilts, so to honour her I wore my Irish National kilt and green Argyle jacket. I was a bit nervous, as aside from my wife's immediate family none of the relatives had seen me kilted. Everyone seemed quite pleased that I wore what I did and did not find it distracting at all.

Picture this with a black shirt, bottle green tie and hose, and black flashes.

[thoth51]

What about colour schemes and tartans? Are some more appropriate than others?