Going to a wedding. to kilt or not to kilt that is the question?

[captenjacksparrow]

So I am going to a wedding. Is is ok to wear a kilt to the wedding even if it is not a scottish theme wedding. my thinking is its outdoors and in the sun middle of the day. But i don't want to become a focus at the wedding either.

Thanks for your advice
jason

[Gingerpose]

Welcome to the most kiltingest place in the whole internet!

This has been discussed a few times before recently. General consensus seems to be, it's up to the people getting married. It's their day, their decision. Ask them if it's ok.
If it is ok by them, come back and get help perfecting your look.

Ainslie

[theborderer]

Hello and Welcome from Berlin, Germany- same from me ask the couple. Its their day

[Really a McQueen]

from the highlands of southern Oregon.

I agree with getting the couple's consent first. Recently, a dear friend got married. About four months previous, I was having dinner them, and the bride-to-be made a comment that I took as a challenge to wear my kilt. After confirming that she was comfortable with that, as long as I went day-wear instead of formal, I appeared at the outdoor June wedding and reception kilted. Creating fond memories for my friend and her new husband.

[vmac3205]

I am in agreement. Casually mention it to the couple, and if they don't recoil in horror, by all means, kilt up. While you want your kilt outfit to reflect the accepted dress of the wedding, you won't want to outshine the groom, so unless it is a formal wedding, and dark suits and tuxes are the suggested dress code, don't wear your PC and plaid. You don't want to be more formal then the groom.

[seanachie]

I am in agreement. Casually mention it to the couple, and if they don't recoil in horror, by all means, kilt up. While you want your kilt outfit to reflect the accepted dress of the wedding, you won't want to outshine the groom, so unless it is a formal wedding, and dark suits and tuxes are the suggested dress code, don't wear your PC and plaid. You don't want to be more formal then the groom.

Of course I have worn a VMac jacket conversion and it looked pretty splendid to me...

[Zardoz]

Zardoz' standard response to the 'wedding question' version 2.0

Why worry about wearing your best to a friend's wedding? As a guest I will dress appropriately for the time and venue of the event, wedding or otherwise. This 'appropriate' dress will currently include a kilt.

I've been to plenty of weddings kilted, I have never felt the need to ask the bride, (who has enough to worry about) or the bride's family, (technically the hosts) or anyone else to get permission to dress in my usual manner. Do you think the wildly inapproprately dressed folks who always seem to show up at these events asked if it was OK to wear their tube-tops, shorts and crocs?

Look at my friend Barbara here;



See how happy and pretty she is on her wedding day? How in the hell is the bald fat boy in the kilt going to "upstage" her?

[seanachie]

Zardoz' standard response to the 'wedding question' version 2.0

Why worry about wearing your best to a friend's wedding? As a guest I will dress appropriately for the time and venue of the event, wedding or otherwise. This 'appropriate' dress will currently include a kilt.

I've been to plenty of weddings kilted, I have never felt the need to ask the bride, (who has enough to worry about) or the bride's family, (technically the hosts) or anyone else to get permission to dress in my usual manner. Do you think the wildly inapproprately dressed folks who always seem to show up at these events asked if it was OK to wear their tube-tops, shorts and crocs?

I am definitely with you on this. I have not as yet sought permission, and as you said was dressed appropriately kilted. In the most recent instance a month ago it was a very large wedding so we had maybe 30 seconds to even speak to the bride. (but she did compliment me on the kilt) I could not agree more about the wildly inappropriately dressed. There were a few in that category and to my mind really stood out in the crowd. Interesting you mentioned the parents. The mother of the groom sought me out and wanted to learn about both kilts and tartan. This a woman I had never met before.

[Jock Scot]

If it were me and assuming the event is outwith Scotland, I would wait to be asked and if the request does not arrive then don't wear the kilt, find an alternative.

[McClef]

If I am invited to a wedding the people inviting me would know me for a kilt wearer so unless there was a specific request not to I would be kilted.

If I didn't I would get lots of questions as to why I wasn't kilted!