A bit of a weird issue

[Drac]

Evening all,

From what I've learned around here it is more than a bit disrespectful to wear something that distracts from the bride at a wedding. It is her day after all. Sounds good. I can go with that.

This is going to be my wife's bosses wedding. Amy works as the admin of her company's owner's daughter. She looks at Amy as a big sister. She is getting married this December and we are invited. No problem here.

Issue is I am getting through the work's grapevine (nepotism is us) that people are expecting me to be in a kilt. I always go to Amy's company functions in a kilt. They've seen quite a few pictures of me in the full kit (military balls, ect.) and it is a bit of a signature as far as they know.

I haven't been requested formally to wear the kilt but I don't want to disappoint.

Any recommendations?

Thanks,
Jim

[Downunder Kilt]

Ask the bride/groom, sounds like Amy knows them well enough.

[brewerpaul]

Ask the bride/groom, sounds like Amy knows them well enough.

DItto this statement, it is always good to get the "High okey dokey" from the bride and groom.

[Mickey]

DItto this statement, it is always good to get the "High okey dokey" from the bride and groom.

In any wedding I've ever been to, it wouldn't have mattered if a dozen clowns popped out of a tiny car on the altar. The only person anybody pays any attention to is the bride. I'm not sure it is possible to upstage any bride. All others are invisible.

That said, I agree that getting approval, ESPECIALLY from the bride, regardless of what is inferred, is simply good form.

[Chas]

In any wedding I've ever been to, it wouldn't have mattered if a dozen clowns popped out of a tiny car on the altar. The only person anybody pays any attention to is the bride. I'm not sure it is possible to upstage any bride. All others are invisible.

That said, I agree that getting approval, ESPECIALLY from the bride, regardless of what is inferred, is simply good form.

I agree 100%. Upstage the bride? Not in this space/time continuum.

The doors open; the organ swells and the first notes of "Here comes the Bride" are heard; in comes the most radiant woman in the whole world on the arm of her beaming father -

And all eyes swivel round to the guy in the kilt!

I Think Not!

Regards

Chas

[opositive]

if a kilt is your normal or expected, then you are not distracting from the wedding party. go as expected and do not disappoint.

[xman]

Yeah, just ask the bride. That'll clear it up.

[RockyR]

Ditto all the above. If you're looking to be polite, ask the bride.

[John McQuillen]

If in doubt ask the bride.....

I once didn't show up in a kilt to a wedding.....when I normally do. The bride was disappointed, and actually asked me on another occasion why I didn't wear it and didn't I like them as much as the other friends.....go figure.

So if in doubt ask! I'm betting the response will be of course I want you to wear your kilt...... At the end of the day its your clothing - what you normally wear not a costume!

[MacBean]

I might ask your wife to ask the bride, and not ask her directly. She might be reticent to express her desires to you?