Non-kilted wedding options?

[Cynthia]

Well, actually, I daydreamed about my wedding day and drew pictures of what I wanted to wear for a long long time. I still am ;) Never got the wedding we wanted (or honeymoon). Hubby has always wanted to wear the kilt to get married. I was excited to hear that and still want him to. I'm hopefully going to sew that gown I never got. Someday we'll get to do a vow renewal. My husband and I have been together for almost 17 years (this July 3rd) and I can't even remember what year we made it official because we go by our original date (we pretty much knew we wanted to get married within a week or so of starting to date). We snuck off and went to a JoP just so I could finally be on his insurance. We didn't tell anyone and no one was invited because we wanted to save that for our REAL "day."

I've told hubby I would love it if he wore diced hose and a doublet with his kilt. If he prefers a PC, I won't fight him... I've even thought of some lovely touches to add for him into my "plans."

If he were to change his mind and want to wear a tux or something, I would be very disappointed but I'd let him. I'm just thankful that we usually agree on most things.

Some women do have very strong feelings about her big day, but I would hope too that they would listen to what their groom-to-be would like to do. It's so much more fun to plan together anyway!

[ali8780]

Well, actually, I daydreamed about my wedding day and drew pictures of what I wanted to wear for a long long time. I still am ;)

Ok, sorry Cynthia, I should have just kept my mouth shut ;) (or fingers from typing!)

[Cynthia]

Ok, sorry Cynthia, I should have just kept my mouth shut ;) (or fingers from typing!)

Nope! We both posted our thoughts on it, proving that we don't fit any one type (even with my daydreaming, I still differ from some women, you know?).

[The Barry]

Me, personally, I'm just marrying someone that loves me being kilted. That way, we're both happy and unbifurcated! Plus, now I get to go full-out black tie, and I'm fairly excited.

[BassClefB]

I figured I'd offer my $.02. My fiancee' is quite lovely and understanding, and quite supportive and encouraging about my kilt wearing in general. She did however request (not *demand*... big difference) that I go for the tux for the ceremony. I respect that, since it was respectfully requested. She wants me to wear the kilt for the rehearsal and the day before, and for a good part of the reception. I figure that's a fair compromise, and something I'm willing to oblige.

As an aside... I was quite surprised at how supportive and cool my parents were with me going kilted for most of the wedding proceedings. It's very foreign to them, but my Dad said that as long as I researched it and know that I'm on the up-and-up with the traditions, he is very much okay with it. I am really the only person in my family to have researched and kept the Scottish lineage alive and thriving in terms of the kilt and culture, so I think they're proud that I am so interested in preserving it to any degree for the wedding.

[McClef]

I could never marry or have a civil partnership with someone who wouldn't let me wear a kilt at the ceremony.

[JSFMACLJR]

I could never marry or have a civil partnership with someone who wouldn't let me wear a kilt at the ceremony.

I'd have to agree with you, Trefor. I fail to understand how a person one is in love with, and who loves you in return, could make such unreasonable "demands." It actually is a form of blackmail. "Wear what I say, or you can't marry me." If I were the betrothed couple's priest or minister in such a situation, I would have honest doubts about the strength of their union and their ability to share and compromise. What does it say to the groom when the bride says "I will not allow you to wear that!"?

[The Barry]

I could never marry or have a civil partnership with someone who wouldn't let me wear a kilt at the ceremony.

Me either! Not in a million years! Either I'm me and kilted or I'm not being me.

[ali8780]

something to consider:

How many men would be able to get away with telling their fiance what she could and couldn't wear in their wedding? Precious few.

yet another double standard

[Rob Wright]

For a lot of guys, they want nothing to do with a wedding other than showing up, saying I do and get past all the "hoopla." Weddings are viewed as being female centric and guys generally don't care for all the fuss.

Rob