My condolences on the loss of your friend.

When my mother died last year, I did not wear my kilt. Like you I was afraid of drawing intrest to myself. However, I wanted to keep the attention on my father, who needed the closure after the previous horrible year he had caring for her. If he had asked, I would have worn it in a heartbeat.

I have not lived in Texas in about 15 years. Hill Country. Fredricksburg. One of the centers of Cowboy Action Shooting (talk about outlandish outfits). Less than 1 hour from San Antonio where, when I lived there, was a wild, colorful part at the drop of a hat. I don't think others are going to say much, especially since they got the same "wear colors" message.

Your comfort vs her wishes? Hard decision, I wish you luck with it.

Steven Wilson