Seeking experienced advice on wearing and caring for the kilt

[Tenmiles]

I agree completely with Paddy. I think it is not just a point but very important that you treat this as something very special that will be endowed with some great associations and feel doubly good to you over the weeks and years. Wear it around the house a little and maybe go out to the car to see about care during entry and exit. But this is something that should be seen as very special to the day of your wedding. Not the same thing your friends have seen you wearing about yet.
As to the technical aspects of owning this garment I have to say that Barb's book has been really informative and I feel comfortable and competent about kilt care from what I learned there and here on xmarks.
For the most part, save it for that special event.
Become informed and better able to make decisions about care.
Enjoy.

Just to clarify a point; this isn't "my" wedding; I am to be one of a dozen groomsmen for my wife's brother in his entourage; it's HIS wedding.

But having pondered Paddy's points further today, I think I have hit on what may be a truth about the difference between mine and my wife's points of view on this matter.

You see, since the groomsmen are dressing in Highland Formal, naturally we're all wearing kilts and Prince Charlies, etc.
The tartans are not required to be uniform; the groom has invited us to wear our own tartan, if we have such (he will be wearing his family's, but doesn't insist we all wear the same), or to pick whatever we'd like best from whatever company we might hire our outfits from.

I thought that this was a fine impetus to at last purchase a proper tailored kilt of my own, and saved up to do so.

But here, I suspect, is the difference in our mindsets:
I think perhaps my wife has viewed the process as "Buying a kilt for the wedding, which, by happy coincidence, I will be able to keep and wear as I please afterward",
While I think that I had been viewing the process as "Buying a kilt for myself, which, by happy coincidence, means I can wear it to the wedding and not have to rent one".