Quote Originally Posted by michael steinrok
So I get an invite to my cousins' grandmothers' 100th Birthday party.Good news.... This kind of Tees me off as I am getting closer to being kilted all the time.... the nice thing is their grandmother is a sweet little old lady. They call her Nana. Happy Birthday to her!
I have a suggestion for a polite reply that I might be inclined to send along if I were in similar circumstances.

Thank you for the invitation to _______ 100th birthday celebration.

Regrettably, I will be unable to attend as I will be out of the country.
I should say I am rather saddened that you have chosen to make my attire an issue, particularly on such a happy occasion. Be assured that I always make every effort to dress appropriately for all occasions. Also, please understand that, like you, I need neither justify nor explain my choice of clothing to anyone. I Thank you for your suggestion anyway.

I would appreciate your expressing my very best wishes to _______ on her 100th birthday.

Best regards to you and yours,

Michael
Something along these lines might kill 2 birds with one stone.

However you choose to handle this.... Good luck !

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