Greetings again! So I've ordered my kilt, and I'm extremely excited to wear it. However I was speaking with someone just now and they told me something that contradicted what I had planned to wear.

This kilt is for my wedding. I'm wearing it with a pretty standard formal outfit - prince charlie jacket, vest, dress shirt, bowtie, brogues, hose and flashes, and I intended to also wear a fly plaid and brooch.

I understand that the plaid is an extremely formal item - this I know, and as such I expected it is something I probably will very rarely wear, if ever again.

The person with whom I was just speaking (brides mother) thinks that I shouldn't wear it. Traditionally it was worn by the clan chief, a high ranking military officer, or royalty, at extremely formal events. Neither of these titles, obviously, apply to me.

Not that I don't believe this to be true - it may very well be. She's scottish as well and pretty familiar with her heritage. However from my perspective - this is a formal wedding, the wedding dress is extremely formal, as are the maids, the men are all in kilts or tuxes, formal location, meal .. the whole bit. For me, this is the most formal occasion I am likely to be a part of in my life. As a result, I feel I'm justified wearing it. I'm not going to deny that I really love the look of it as well. Traditions are what they are and thats fine. Most people will just think it looks cool and wont know the difference, but there are most likely going to be a couple people at the wedding that will in fact know (or think they know) what the proper use of the plaid is and think that I'm being disrespectful for wearing it (or haven't earned the right to wear it).

So .. first - is that true? Second, does it matter? What is the proper place to wear a plaid *today*?