Have You Ever Been Falsly Accused of Flashing When Kilted?

[Panache]

Yikes Jamie....I'm feeling falsly accused again...
Ron

Ron,

I'm not trying to accuse you of anything. Those who have seen me in other places on the internet or in person see that I act the exact same manner as I do here. I don't have one face for XMTS and another for elsewhere.

(By the by, yes, I accept that I am a pretty boring and old fashioned fellow)

So I read your problem and compared it to your manner here and wanted to get out the thought that you may have been part of this problem. It is a possibly. If you never mention such and are very cautious about your behavior then there isn't much you can do.

I am a Moderator of X Marks the Scot and therefore very well used to the idea of false accusations. I have been called Anti-American Left Winger, Right-Wing Facist Dictator, Liar, Corrupt, Unfair, and a whole host of other terms that I can't repeat here in my tenure here as part of the Mod Squad.

I can tell you there really isn't a defense against slander.

If you argue back, the people accusing you just make more accusations and things just escalate.

If you ignore it then it seems that you are accepting their accusations.

All that can one can do is be true to yourself, be polite, and most of all be careful in your behavior to give people no reason to accuse you.

I often work in my son's school kilted. It is an absolute certainy that if I were to act in a careless manner that there would be severe repercussions, and deservedly so! So I am most careful in how I move, how I sit, how I get up, and how I deal with wind or potential curious people (be they children or adults).

That's the best I can do.

If people show a prejudice to believing kilt wearers are flashers, you can lay the blame squarely at those that wear kilts, get drunk, and show the entire world their shortcomings.

You have to be the example of what a kilted gent is to turn that image in people's minds.

In honesty I didn't mean offense Ron, but I see the two hardest things for adults to say are "I was wrong" and "I'm sorry". Almost by instinct we want to place blame somewhere else. When there are problems I try to look at my behavior and how I fit in with what caused a problem.

There are people out there all too ready to take offense, and sadly all too many people out there who delight in trying to cause problems and make people uncomfortable.

There aren't any easy answers good sir, there is only doing your best.

Cheers

Jamie