Quote Originally Posted by davidlpope View Post

...I've piped for the prelude music at my church before and chose not to wear a kilt because I was worried that it would be interpreted an element of "performance/show" instead of a form of worship. Similarly, I worry that showing up in full piper's No. 1 dress would put the emphasis on you as a "performer", rather than communicating a solemn homage to your father-in-law...


David
I wholeheartedly agree. While the tradition would suggest the piper be kilted, the piper is also not normally one of the bereaved.

I don't wear my kilt to weddings or funerals unless the celebrants or mourners are also wearing kilts to celebrate the occasion or to honor the decedent's heritage.

My two cents come with sincerest condolences.