Alternate wedding attire

**ffmedic42** · 25th February 04, 03:17 PM

I am looking for suggestions. I'm getting married soon and wanted to incorporate my family Tartan into my already purchased tuxedo. I have seen sashes worn before, but I was wondering what is actually the right way to do this. I want to wear a "sash" over my tux with my family crest pin. Is this in any way tradional attire. If this can be done, does anyone have any good recources for finding them? Thanks in advance!

**Graham** · 25th February 04, 03:38 PM

Are you planning to wear a kilt? If I was getting married again I would wear a tartan kilt, plain tie, and Argyle Jacket (black).

Wow, I think it's time to remarry

**Blu (Ontario)** · 25th February 04, 04:09 PM

Hello, ffmedic42
I must conclude from your post that you don't own or wear a kilt at the present time...and thats ok. There's nothing shabby whatsoever about a tuxedo. I don't recall ever seeing a standard tux worn with a tartan sash. That doesn't mean that it hasn't been done. If you find yourself a bit self concious about renting and wearing a kilt & jacket, perhaps you might consider tartan trews instead.
I might suggest posting the question on the Hector Russell forum.
http://www.talkaboutkilts.com/cgi-bi...be38fe11e1ffff
I don't post there, but from what I've read there, they bend over backwards to get the right definitive correct answer for you.
Just a word or two about kilts. The humble kilt and jacket will put just about any tuxedo to shame. IMHO, leave the sash for the ladies and get a kilt. There isn't a kilted man among us who hasn't been apprehensive about shedding trousers and wearing the real McCoy. I can tell you that most men that try it are hooked. I can also tell you that the ladies go bonkers for guys in kilts. I'm 50 plus and balding and even I get winks and nods from younger women. My advice,...give the kilt a try.

**ffmedic42** · 25th February 04, 04:10 PM

I'm not planning to wear a kit because I have already purchased the tux and I don't think there is enough time for a kilt to be made anyway. I also want something my brothers, father, and I can all wear. Add that all together and that is a lot of money and time needed for 4 sets of formal wear. That's why I was thinking of sashes or somehting to that effect.

**Colin** · 25th February 04, 04:23 PM

I didn't wear a kilt to my wedding either (I hadn't yet appretiated them, and the cost to rent was huge). I did buy some tartan ribbon in the clan tartan of each of my groomsmen. We had the tartan put into our boutineers (I know I spelt it wrong..). This looked quite sharp, and we were all able to represent our clans at a formal event.

**bubba** · 25th February 04, 06:38 PM

I've seen tartan cumerbunds worn. It looks pretty sharp

**highlandtide** · 25th February 04, 07:12 PM

I think the ***boutineers or cumberbund are probably the best idea.

It would look way wierd to be wearing a tartan fly over your shoulder but not have on a matching kilt.

IMHO

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**John in Texas** · 28th February 04, 05:28 PM

A lot of places also offer tartan bow ties, that with the cumberbund should look pretty sharp. And perhaps a small Clan Crest badge or pin on the lapel.

But, why buy a tux? Do you actually go to that many formal events a year? At least with a kilt, you can wear the kilt with a polo shirt or sweater for casual things, not likely to wear dress pants when hitting the pub for a pint.

All things considered, good luck & Best Wishes!

**bubba** · 28th February 04, 06:45 PM

At least with a kilt, you can wear the kilt with a polo shirt or sweater for casual things, not likely to wear dress pants when hitting the pub for a pint.

Unless you're James Bond <G>

**Chris** · 9th March 04, 10:50 AM

I don't think the men should wear sashes with their tuxedos. the women can wear sashes. The men can wear tartan bowties and matching cummerbunds or waistcoats.