Anyone's spouse/significant other vehemently opposed to you kilting?

[LitTrog]

Nope.



I'm not gloating. I just think it's truly unfortunate and damned unfair.

[Derek]

I am very lucky that my wife, family and friends dont care or are interested come to that, whether I am in my cilt or jeans. I wear my cilt everyday doing everyday things, in the house, out the house, wherever I would normally be going if I had jeans on. On some occassions I do wear my jeans. Just down to me on the day and no one else. So, yep, I am a lucky guy. Soz that some of you do have some probs. Doh.
Iechyd Da
Derek

[LANCER1562]

My late wife didn't have a problem with me wearing the kilt perse, she ehad a problem with the attention it attracted especially from the ladies. I could wear my kilt around the house, I just couldn't wear it out in public.

[dadgad]

My wife is the one that got me wearing a kilt. She knows there's no turning back, now.

[Mirthlesstroll]

My husband is rather opposed to my kilting our boys - he's concerned they'll be made fun of, but they're not open wearing their kilts in everyday situations yet.

We go to Scottish Games, Irish Faires, and I'm working on period shirts for the local Renn Faire. I tried to get the big guy to kilt up for the VA Scottish Games. That went over like a fart in church......

[Laird_M]

Nope.



I'm not gloating. I just think it's truly unfortunate and damned unfair.

That her legs are better than yours?

Thankfully my wife likes it and has no issue with it as I regularly wear a sarong when its too hot. But she does complain about the cost...

[LitTrog]

That her legs are better than yours?

Yes! I mean, c'mon! I shave. I use fragrant lotions to keep things smooth and moist. But I'm still nowhere close!

[ForresterModern]

Yes my Wife (her screen name here, just to keep track of my kilted relations) does not like me wearing the kilt at any time. She tolerates my interest in wearing it for specifically Scottish events like the games and such, but even then has no enthusiasm for attending with me. She rolls her eyes when I decide to wear a kilt to work with a "why do you need to wear a kilt to work?', even on weekends when nobody else is around. She recoils when I say I want to attend significant events in our mutual life kilted, such as a winter black tie ball, horse racing events, work related social gatherings, and has even on a couple of occassions refused to attend the event if I insist on going kilted. Sometimes I accede and go in p@nts, other times I hold my ground and we don't go, but mostly lately I just dress as I please and try to not outshine her dress but compliment it with what I am wearing. She jibes me about how much money I have spent on kilt related items, the space it takes up (even though she built me a dedicated cedar lined kilt closet in one of our guest rooms), hates anything with natural fur that I bring into the house (fox, badger, skunk sporrans, etc) due to allergies. Even though we have purchased kilts built for our 3 year old son she never wants to dress him in them, unless it is for a specific highland event. She also says that every time she sees me in a kilt it turns her off sexually, not just for the moment but for days afterward. She hates the attention and looks it garners when out in public, and has even expressed embarrassment to be with me when kilted in a non-Highland situation---Walmart, grocery store, etc.... Lastly she thinks I only do it for the attention I recieve, like I am some kind of peacock strutting with my plume of feathers out for all to see. She worries that if I go out socially kilted without her I will be "accosted" by throngs of kilt loving pretty young things who will only desire to kilt check me repeatedly, and that I am going to enjoy the attention. Pffaffff. There are probably more similar issues I could think of with time, but it is not a pleasant existence when your significant other chooses not to either embrace your newfound love of the kilt or at least tolerate it without fighting against it at every turn. I have tried to involve her in the process, even getting her a silk tartan wrap custom mde in the colors of the Dutch Friendship Tartan (she is first generation American of full-blooded Dutch parents), then getting DFT kilts made for myself and my son to compliment her wrap after I traced our family roots through Scotland and further back to Flanders, an old part of what is now Holland, where our paternal family name actually originated. Still no change in attitude.

Good luck with your situation, and I hope it changes for the better, if even only a little. I will trudge onward thusly.

jeff

[Cygnus]

[...]I tried to get the big guy to kilt up for the VA Scottish Games. That went over like a fart in church......

That's the thing about farts in church - they go over you whether you want them to or not, and you're not in a position to complain about them!

My wife isn't opposed to kilting per se, but she doesn't understand it. She gets a lot of points from me for being (fairly) supportive of something that she really can't wrap her mind around; though I do wish she'd stop trying to get me to match everything to my kilt!

[Ryan Ross]

I think this question hilights the advantages of beginning one's kilt wearing habits early.

You take me, for example- I started wearing the kilt with extreme regularity when I was 17. The ladies would generally have a pretty good idea from the off that the kilt comes with me, and that if they had a problem with that, they shouldn't let the door hit them in the @ss on the way out.

I like that.