Anyone's spouse/significant other vehemently opposed to you kilting?

[TheBrus]

How does she feel about... flat caps?

[Tobus]

How does she feel about... flat caps?

She's not much of a fan of those either, although I don't think she holds them at the same level of abhorrence as a Balmoral.

[TheBrus]

She's not much of a fan of those either, although I don't think she holds them at the same level of abhorrence as a Balmoral.

My wife thinks they're just goofy-looking. I wear my tweed balmorals with trousers during cold-weather months. I tried a glengarry, but it didn't suit me.

[Mikilt]

Like EagleJCS, I haven't had a sig since I have been kilting. Truth be told, I prefer kilts. I know that Riverkilt likes to insist that wearing the kilt brings women a-running, but I have had the opposite experience. Today and any day, I wear the kilt for myself alone.

[Meggers]

Consider having it made in one of the Walker setts:

http://www.scotweb.co.uk/tartan/Walker/23473

Perhaps in silk rather than wool. Yes, you CAN get tartan yardage in silk. Tartan refers to the weave, not the material.

Hey, thats not such a bad idea actually. Especially if the dupatta (long scarf) would be in walker silk and then the shalwar kameez could be in solid colors that accent the dupatta....

way to get my wheels turning!

but im still getting him in a kilt someday He has no escape. (and to be honest, I dont think he's terribly opposed. He's pretty interested in my heritage.)

[CDNSushi]

My wife thinks they're just goofy-looking. I wear my tweed balmorals with trousers during cold-weather months. I tried a glengarry, but it didn't suit me.

I believe that. In some ways it's a legitimate qualm (I said in SOME ways...) I've also sometimes looked at what I was wearing or others (not necessarily kilts, but could be anything not mainstream) and felt that it looked rather odd or off, or even goofy.

But that's nothing new. It's almost like repeating a word over and over to yourself until it starts to sound strange. Even everyday clothing items can be really goofy-looking under the right circumstances.

My understanding of what the Japanese thought when they first saw Western men wearing "formal" clothes, with all their tall hats, and collars, and decorations, and embellishments, was that they looked absolutely ridiculous!

But on that note, we must also be willing to laugh at ourselves, shrug our shoulders and say, "Meh. There's worse things in life than looking goofy." And going on with our day.

If you need a perspective check, just one day assemble the absolutely, hands-down, goofiest, most ridiculous getup you can out of your closet, put it on, and tell your wife you're going out. After she screams in horror and you scrape her off the ceiling, and says "there's no way on EARTH you're going out wearing THAT!" You replace your attire with a simple kilt, matching shirt, nice hose, and you (and your wife) will realize just how good you actually look.

[James Hood]

This thread has really taken on a life of its own. Please forgive any offense, but the thought of "some" ladies not liking--to vehemently hating the kilt and so on through accesories and headwear...

...seems to be perhaps based on a combination of (their) "lack of ability to control" and perhaps a hair of narrowmindedness when it comes to men wishing to make their OWN fashion statement or decide their own level of comfort...?

[Damocles]

This thread has really taken on a life of its own. Please forgive any offense, but the thought of "some" ladies not liking--to vehemently hating the kilt and so on through accesories and headwear...

...seems to be perhaps based on a combination of (their) "lack of ability to control" and perhaps a hair of narrowmindedness when it comes to men wishing to make their OWN fashion statement or decide their own level of comfort...?

here here!

[Nighthawk]

My wife loves the kilt, and actually thinks I should wear it more than I do.

She, however, hates traditional Scottish headwear. She refuses to be seen with me if I want to wear my Balmoral - even at a Highland Games where lots of others are wearing one. Doesn't like the Glengarry either. So I usually find myself having to go hatless when kilted, and as long as I do, she's happy to be on my arm.

What about one of Ryan Ross's bonnets? They're excellent!! I love mine!

[Meggers]

This thread has really taken on a life of its own. Please forgive any offense, but the thought of "some" ladies not liking--to vehemently hating the kilt and so on through accesories and headwear...

...seems to be perhaps based on a combination of (their) "lack of ability to control" and perhaps a hair of narrowmindedness when it comes to men wishing to make their OWN fashion statement or decide their own level of comfort...?

I can see where you are coming from...and to be honest, I cant imagine telling another person that they cannot wear a garment from their heritage. I might say "Im not a fan of this" but with or without a wedding ring, both people are still individuals. Isnt that why you vow to spend eternity with someone? Becuase you love who they are? If a man is so proud to be Scot/Irish that he owns even ONE kilt, that should have come up in the dating process and became one of the things that makes that man who he is. It is something that makes him happy and unique and proud to be who he is and nobody should tell him that he can't display it in his traditional clothing.

I guess I just feel like it would be taking away part of someones identity to tell them that the cant display part of their heritage. This has been a constant pet peeve of mine being that I run into this quite often in my religious circle and there comes a time when you need to put your foot down and say that your heritage is something you want to display and your spouse should NOT smother that pride. It's so important that they don't.

note** I am certainly not accusing any of our boardies wives of smothering out their husbands heritage and pride. lol. I was simply ranting. This is a topic that I can get pretty heated about. I hope nobody thinks I was accusing their wives I certainly am not.