Whatever has happened to manners

[piperdbh]

When I hold a door for someone to walk through, and then someone else walks through as if I'm part of the furniture whose existence is centered around holding the door for them, I thank them, aloud, for walking through my door. Or, sometimes, I'll say, again aloud, "You're welcome".

I take my fun where I can find it.

[creagdhubh]

When I hold a door for someone to walk through, and then someone else walks through as if I'm part of the furniture whose existence is centered around holding the door for them, I thank them, aloud, for walking through my door. Or, sometimes, I'll say, again aloud, "You're welcome".

I take my fun where I can find it.

Well stated!

[Tobus]

When I hold a door for someone to walk through, and then someone else walks through as if I'm part of the furniture whose existence is centered around holding the door for them, I thank them, aloud, for walking through my door. Or, sometimes, I'll say, again aloud, "You're welcome".

I take my fun where I can find it.

I've seen people do that, and I always cringe. If you're holding the door for someone in the expectation of receiving a thank-you, then you're doing it for the wrong reason. I'm of the opinion that if the person thanks me (which they always do... this is Texas), then it's nice. But if they didn't, then it's no skin off my back. It doesn't change anything for me, and it certainly doesn't justify me one-upping them on the rudeness scale.

I find it really hard to believe that a woman would berate a man for holding the door open. I've never experienced it, and couldn't see it happening in my area. Women just aren't like that here. They always say thank-you or nod and smile, or make some minor effort to acknowledge your gesture politely.

But even if I did get a butt-chewing over it, it wouldn't change anything. I will continue to hold doors for women, and give up a seat for a woman precisely because she is a woman, and regardless of her physical condition. If that makes me a sexist pig, well, I can live with that.

[Lyle1]

But even if I did get a butt-chewing over it, it wouldn't change anything. I will continue to hold doors for women, and give up a seat for a woman precisely because she is a woman, and regardless of her physical condition. If that makes me a sexist pig, well, I can live with that.

Years ago, I read a quip about a women who berated a man who held the door for her. She asked, in a mocking tone of voice, if he was hold the door because she was a lady. He told her that he was holding the door because he was a gentleman!