The Rules of the Gentleman

[thescot]

I do like Todd's quote; it's one I've not read before.

I know that a gentleman is capable--and often guilty--of ungentlemanly behavior. However, the Rules as posted are certainly enviable at least in their intent and overall essence (to use a previously used term). I do like the list, and I shall likely share it with my step-son who is only just untering manhood.

I got him a book a while back entitled, The Ultimate Man's Survival Guide(I think that was its title) along with a couple of the books from Brooks Brothers: A Gentleman Entertains and How To Be a Gentleman. I know that each was at least looked at, and a few lessons were learned from them. He knows how to dress properly now without "the old man" trying to tell him how.

In an age when boys are not expected to act like boys and manhood is denigrated, I think it wise to attempt to perpetuate and live by a code of conduct that is at least addressed in the Rules of the OP. I may not agree with or keep them all, but they're a pretty good place to start. And I've enjoyed the wide-ranging discussion of the topic on this thread.

[BoldHighlander]

I may not agree with or keep them all, but they're a pretty good place to start. And I've enjoyed the wide-ranging discussion of the topic on this thread.

Hear! Hear!
I've been enjoying it to, Jim

[Meggers]

I do like Todd's quote; it's one I've not read before.

I know that a gentleman is capable--and often guilty--of ungentlemanly behavior. However, the Rules as posted are certainly enviable at least in their intent and overall essence (to use a previously used term). I do like the list, and I shall likely share it with my step-son who is only just untering manhood.

I got him a book a while back entitled, The Ultimate Man's Survival Guide(I think that was its title) along with a couple of the books from Brooks Brothers: A Gentleman Entertains and How To Be a Gentleman. I know that each was at least looked at, and a few lessons were learned from them. He knows how to dress properly now without "the old man" trying to tell him how.

In an age when boys are not expected to act like boys and manhood is denigrated, I think it wise to attempt to perpetuate and live by a code of conduct that is at least addressed in the Rules of the OP. I may not agree with or keep them all, but they're a pretty good place to start. And I've enjoyed the wide-ranging discussion of the topic on this thread.

While it may seem silly and "uncool" to the male youth of today, nothing is more attracted to a well brought-up woman than a well brought-up man. I hope to raise a very polite and kind young man and even though some girls may tease him, the women who will truly matter will be the ones who will cherish those qualities and vise versa.

[thescot]

While it may seem silly and "uncool" to the male youth of today, nothing is more attracted to a well brought-up woman than a well brought-up man. I hope to raise a very polite and kind young man and even though some girls may tease him, the women who will truly matter will be the ones who will cherish those qualities and vise versa.

I recommend How to Raise a Gentleman to young fathers and mothers. The fact is that once one is familiar with the "Gentleman's Rules" (for lack of a better name), they are not hard to follow, make a lot of sense, and are appalling in their absence.

Why would one not want to open the door for a lady? Or dress appropriately for the occassion? Or know the difference between courage and stupidity?

I am a Marine. I suppose I can kill with my hands, but I can also change a diaper, caress a woman, tie a bow tie, and sew on a button. A polite society is a pleasant society, and I choose the society of gentlemen. Few of us--is any--are to the manor born, but we all know how to act.

Meghan, I am glad to hear what you have to say on the subject. I think all young men--that is, under 40--should listen and heed your words.

[BoldHighlander]

Words of true wisdom. Thank you Jim.