A bit of a weird issue

**Drac** · 13th April 12, 05:45 PM

Evening all,

From what I've learned around here it is more than a bit disrespectful to wear something that distracts from the bride at a wedding. It is her day after all. Sounds good. I can go with that.

This is going to be my wife's bosses wedding. Amy works as the admin of her company's owner's daughter. She looks at Amy as a big sister. She is getting married this December and we are invited. No problem here.

Issue is I am getting through the work's grapevine (nepotism is us) that people are expecting me to be in a kilt. I always go to Amy's company functions in a kilt. They've seen quite a few pictures of me in the full kit (military balls, ect.) and it is a bit of a signature as far as they know.

I haven't been requested formally to wear the kilt but I don't want to disappoint.

Any recommendations?

Thanks,
Jim

**Downunder Kilt** · 13th April 12, 05:53 PM

Ask the bride/groom, sounds like Amy knows them well enough.

**opositive** · 13th April 12, 05:58 PM

if a kilt is your normal or expected, then you are not distracting from the wedding party. go as expected and do not disappoint.

**brewerpaul** · 13th April 12, 06:12 PM

Originally Posted by Downunder Kilt

Ask the bride/groom, sounds like Amy knows them well enough.

DItto this statement, it is always good to get the "High okey dokey" from the bride and groom.

**xman** · 13th April 12, 06:15 PM

Yeah, just ask the bride. That'll clear it up.

**RockyR** · 13th April 12, 06:21 PM

Ditto all the above. If you're looking to be polite, ask the bride.

**Mickey** · 13th April 12, 06:26 PM

Originally Posted by brewerpaul

DItto this statement, it is always good to get the "High okey dokey" from the bride and groom.

In any wedding I've ever been to, it wouldn't have mattered if a dozen clowns popped out of a tiny car on the altar. The only person anybody pays any attention to is the bride. I'm not sure it is possible to upstage any bride. All others are invisible.

That said, I agree that getting approval, ESPECIALLY from the bride, regardless of what is inferred, is simply good form.

**John McQuillen** · 13th April 12, 06:46 PM

If in doubt ask the bride.....

I once didn't show up in a kilt to a wedding.....when I normally do. The bride was disappointed, and actually asked me on another occasion why I didn't wear it and didn't I like them as much as the other friends.....go figure.

So if in doubt ask! I'm betting the response will be of course I want you to wear your kilt...... At the end of the day its your clothing - what you normally wear not a costume!

**MacBean** · 13th April 12, 07:07 PM

I might ask your wife to ask the bride, and not ask her directly. She might be reticent to express her desires to you?

**Jock Scot** · 14th April 12, 01:24 AM

JUST ASK!!!!!!!

We have a French couple, due to be married later this year, staying with us and they have come specifically, although it is always nice to see them at any time, to ask me to wear my kilt to their wedding. Normally and they know, I don't wear the kilt outside Scotland, but I regard the request as an honour that I cannot refuse. They have made things easy, for them and me.

Why is it so difficult for people to ask, I wonder? Particularly when, family,friends, and colleagues are involved. OK I understand strife between parties makes things tricky,but if there is no strife why be hesitant and ask. Yes I do think that the Brides side should ask, but that is really a bit of a detail.