A bit of a weird issue

**Chas** · 14th April 12, 03:23 AM

Originally Posted by Mickey

In any wedding I've ever been to, it wouldn't have mattered if a dozen clowns popped out of a tiny car on the altar. The only person anybody pays any attention to is the bride. I'm not sure it is possible to upstage any bride. All others are invisible.

That said, I agree that getting approval, ESPECIALLY from the bride, regardless of what is inferred, is simply good form.

I agree 100%. Upstage the bride? Not in this space/time continuum.

The doors open; the organ swells and the first notes of "Here comes the Bride" are heard; in comes the most radiant woman in the whole world on the arm of her beaming father -

And all eyes swivel round to the guy in the kilt!

I Think Not!

Regards

Chas

**M. A. C. Newsome** · 14th April 12, 04:23 AM

If they expect you to wear your kilt, then wear the kilt! I've attended plenty of weddings as a guest kilted. Generally, the couple feels honored that I would do so for them. And I have never, ever, ever, "outshown" the bride. We talk a lot about the "power of the kilt" around here, but let's not go overboard. It would take a lot more than that to outshine a bride on her wedding day. Believe me, all eyes will be on her.

**gary meakin** · 14th April 12, 05:14 AM

You're asking and getting answers from all the wrong people.
ASK THE BRIDE!

**Drac** · 14th April 12, 06:27 AM

Originally Posted by MacBean

I might ask your wife to ask the bride, and not ask her directly. She might be reticent to express her desires to you?

This is the issue I'm worried about. She would probably feel awkward saying no.

Jim

**Jock Scot** · 14th April 12, 06:34 AM

Originally Posted by Drac

This is the issue I'm worried about. She would probably feel awkward saying no.

Jim

So, there is some doubt that the kilt will be welcome at the wedding. In that case, wait to be asked and if the request is not forthcoming, then don't, on this occasion, wear the kilt.

**Powermac** · 14th April 12, 06:57 AM

They are called "Bridezillas" for a reason. I'm pretty sure she's got the picture of "her day" in her head, and if that doesn't include a guy in a kilt, unless she's a complete pushover, she'll let you know. On HER day, she's not out to protect your feelings.

To this day, my friends still joke about the iron-fisted way my wife ran our wedding.

**wepollard** · 14th April 12, 08:02 AM

I agree with the comment made that it is hard to upstage a bride. I attended my nephews wedding and my grandsons wedding kilted. I wear a kilt with muted or dark colors,
thereby not calling attention to myself. Family members are used to seeing me in a kilt. The brides families never even commented upon the kilt.

**Zardoz** · 14th April 12, 08:06 AM

"people are expecting me to be in a kilt, I always go to Amy's company functions in a kilt, They've seen quite a few pictures of me in the full kit, and it is a bit of a signature as far as they know."

So wear it and get on with your life!

**Father Bill** · 14th April 12, 10:27 AM

How important is the wedding group?

Is the kilt more important than the people?

**Ryan Ross** · 14th April 12, 10:31 AM

Great advice is given here, as always.

From my own experience, in circles where I'm expected to be in a kilt, it's actually a distraction when I'm not in a kilt, and business as usual when I am.