My deepest condolences for your loss.

Every funeral or memorial I have attended has been a celebration of ones life. A chance to remember the good times, the color and the life in ones circle. If the widow wants to keep up this circle of life tradition, I feel it should be honored as it will be honoring your friend and his life's circle.

It has been said that Eiridh tonn air uisge balbh -- A wave will rise on quiet water when one completes there life circle.

Honor your friend in his journey.

Seawolf