One person's opinion

[rondo]

I don't get the flashy and/or expensive car... motor cycle (and leathers)... boat (power, sail, or "yacht") ... horses and western wear... fancy suits, expensive watches, ... unconventional hair (facial and/or otherwise) .. tattoos... etc. ... thing......

' Sounds like what this guy doesn't get is allowing other people to express themselves as they wish instead of conforming to his particular standards, whatever they may be (pretty clearly they exclude wearing the kilt). This is not something that is a mater of law nor even ethics or morality but rather of taste or style and this guy doesn't seem to allow for any other than his own. Some friend!

I am currently accepting friendship applications: extra special consideration given to 'freaks', 'geeks', 'slackers', 'hackers', 'neo-maxi zoom dweebies', 'mal-contents', 'miscreants', and 'Emo chicks'...if you weren't listed, its all cool...my ship is big enough...welcome aboard! lol...just sayin'.
Rondo

[O'Callaghan]

It reminds me of a comment someone once made that I must be trying to draw attention to myself because I have long hair. It's a bit different from a kilt, at least in that it's there all the time. All the same, if I cut it I'd feel as if I were masquerading as someone else. I like being different, and I don't even want to be just like everyone else, but I'm actually slightly introverted and not in any way any kind of exhibitionist. Some people just don't get it, but I'm used to that.

I am not wearing a kilt right now, but I am wearing a pair of red leather shoes. Some people find those shocking, although heaven knows why. My wife can't understand why I bought them. IMHO, why restrict yourself to just brown or black shoes? That's boring. I like variety and choices, and some people don't. They prefer to wear what everyone else is wearing, have the same haircut, etc. Can't say I ever did. I like wearing bright colours, and have real trouble understanding why some people would rather restrict themselves to shades of grey and brown from head to toe. Or why they would want to wear trousers all the time?

It takes all sorts to make a world, that's what I've always believed.

[Kilted Cole]

I got a similar responce for a "friend" as well once.... I responded simply that the door was in that direction and if he was ashamed to be seen with me that he was more than free to find a new friend and that I wasn't going to change who I was because of his insecurity issues.

[Kilted Cole]

Usualy when a stranger approaches with some offhanded comment usually coupled with sarcasm and judgment, "I'm sorry, I don't recall asking for your opinion" usually slipps out or something to that effect. I personally don't wear the kilt for "shock" factor or to bring attention towards myself. Most people in my life know that I'm an avid Kilt wearer and have either gotten used to it by now or have fallen by the wayside. I wear the kilt because of my ancestry, comfort, and I like to. Once folks get past the initial shock of OMG it's a man in a "skirt" or Kilt depending on the individuals knowledge and realize that it's now just part of who you are, things usually smooth out and most negative comments come from complete strangers who you really won't care about their opinions anyhow.

[Caddy One]

There is a place where the sun does not shine and I would advise your friend to take the journey................

[guardsman]

Must ask what sort of friend this is. Is this a drinking friend or other.Sounds like he is jealous and wants some horizontal dancing.Either way this friend doesnt own you,so do your own thing and be happy.

[SlackerDrummer]

I got a similar responce for a "friend" as well once.... I responded simply that the door was in that direction and if he was ashamed to be seen with me that he was more than free to find a new friend and that I wasn't going to change who I was because of his insecurity issues.

Well that's just it, isn't it? If the kilt-wearing is a recent indulgence, the friend perceives that you already have "changed who your are," doesn't recognize you as the guy he's know for a while, and therefore is having a hard time understanding kilt thing. This is a learning opportunity, not an opportunity to discard a friendship.

I think most of the responses on this thread aren't really addressing the situation at hand and therefore aren't offering very good advice. Just my two cents worth.

[Father Bill]

Okay, (he said, finally chiming in) all opinions are valuable, but so are friendships. That means that tact on either side is valuable. The OP's friend failed miserably on that scale in the first place, but not knowing the circumstances, any response from our "web-mate" would need the same courtesy.

Ya' know, good manners and courtesy are never out of style.

[Jack Daw]

The closest that I have come to receiving such a statement came from one of my two brothers - the one that demands to be the center of attention all of the time.

[Java]

To piggy back on the posts of Father Bill, and Jock's way back on the first page; In this life a man is only going to aquire a small handful of friends that he'd trust with his life, and that can and will tell him when he's screwing up. So the question is, is this one of those friends or not? If it is, you have to let him know you're serious about it, (using more tact than he apparently did) and try to explain why. If he is not one of that handful of men, tell him to suck it up and deal with it..........