Why was the cemetery paved over in the first place? I don't know in this case, but until recently (1900?) it was quite usual for graves to be unmarked in churchyards and the space re-used.

My parents are buried in the churchyard of the church where the funeral took place. Admittedly, they've extended it and the undertakers had to drive my mother's coffin round to the upper gate, but my sister and I walked to the grave in time to meet the hearse and walk behind my mother to my father's grave.

I don't suppose that happens very often and I'm not sure my mother would have appreciated it, but although it was her funeral, it was my loss and I did.

I wore a dark business suit with black tie. This has nothing to do with kilts.

(Richard III was found in a car park in Leicester because he was buried in a monastery church, which was demolished when his successors, the Tudors, dissolved the monasteries.)