The answer is always easier when the problem is someone elses!

While I was also brought up to respect my elders, listen and learn from them I was also taught, "to thy own self be true".

I have got to go with Bear and the others of this side. From my own past I have learned that older family members don't like to have the tree shaken and they also feel that they know best what is best for you. While I'm sure you love and respect her, she needs to have enough love and respect for you to trust your judgement. I have a shaved head and wear a kilt (whenever possible...the work thing gets in the way!). Some of my relatives think I should grow my hair and wear a 3 piece suit. I am being true to myself. I still love them and respect them but it's my life and life experience....

RLJ-