If you'd asked me this question last year, I think I would have answered this one the same as Bear. Now, I have a different answer. My family found out about 5 months ago that my granny has cancer in over 2/3 of her body. It's so bad that they can't do chemotherapy, because it would just kill her. So, we're just kind of waiting for her to die.

In light of this, it's forced me to consider what's really important in life. With her short time left, if my gran made the same request, I'd have to honor it, but that's just me.

Almost 7 years ago, my sister got married, and I was not invited to the wedding because I had recently changed religions. It may sound petty, but it's a big deal to my family. This was one of those times that I had to stand for what I believe in. To do any less would have violated my consience and left me full of major regrets.

So, Mychael, my advice would be to consider the big picture here, and where your convictions lie. If you truly feel that you have to take a stand, then by all means do so. However, if it's a "I'm my own man, I'll do what I want" situation, then you'll only come off as petty, and everyone will know it.

You're a smart guy, so I know that you'll make the right decision, whatever that may be.