Quote Originally Posted by Freelander
Am I being overly cynical here?
Sorry What I ment to write was that she was probably Well-meaning.

Why should she be out to hurt Grahams feelings or worse try to scare him
I think it's the Japanese that have this saying, "The nail that stands up gets hammered down."
There are a lot of people that will make subtle comments designed to make you question your kilt wearing. Some of these comments are along the theme of this lady's question. They are the, "you look gay to me," comments. I've had them many times.
They are nothing more than comments made to try to make you conform.