More confused than when I started here. Help dress me for my own wedding?

[JohntheBiker]

Go with the fly plaid, if you wish. I did at my wedding and didn't regret it at all. In fairness, I haven't worn it since but my wife has used it as a wrap on a number of occasions.

[BadenochWolf]

Go with the fly plaid, if you wish. I did at my wedding and didn't regret it at all. In fairness, I haven't worn it since but my wife has used it as a wrap on a number of occasions.

This was my thought exactly. After our wedding, she could wear it on occasions when I'm kilted and we'd look quite the pair (if a little matchy-matchy)

[JohntheBiker]

Husband and wife in the same family tartan. Can't think that that is necessarily a bad thing. Just don't ask her to wear dead animals (apparently).

[Panache]

BW,

The outfit sounds great. I personally wouldn't wear a fly plaid with an argyll jacket as I think that a fly plaid looks best as a formal accessory with a formal doublet or a PC Doublet as evening wear, but it is your wedding. One thing that I have learned from XMTS is that in highland attire there seem to be two modes. The first is understated and not overly worried about everything being perfect. The second is over the top flamboyant and grand. If you aren't going for the over the top formal look it is better to go a little understated. The only thing in your outfit that seems over the top is the fly plaid. It might be worth thinking about over the next year.

Cheers

Jamie

[Calgacus]

Hi BW,

Your outfit sounds great. I'm another who is no real fan of the fly plaid, though it's entirely your choice.
Have you considered some other plaid options if you want to stand out? I'm not sure of the suitability in terms of the correct level of formality, but here's a couple of options that sprang immediately to mind-

Firstly, Steve's plaid as seen in posts #47 & #50 in this thread-

http://www.xmarksthescot.com/forum/f...96/index5.html

Secondly, a similar concept rediscovered by Matt Newsome here-

http://kiltmaker.blogspot.co.uk/2008...ats-plaid.html

Whatever you choose, I'm sure it will be a fantastic day for you both.

[Jock Scot]

I am with the others in advising against the fly plaid. If you insist, well its your choice and your money, but remember one thing.

In twenty years time, when your children look at the wedding pictures(as they do), be prepared to dive for cover when the howls of laughter echo around the house!

[Jack Daw]

Hello, Wolf;

I'm getting married at 4:30pm next month. I'm also wearing long tie (either cream-colored or grey), black barathea Argyll/waistcoat, silver fox mask sporran (prior approval from fiancé received), diced hose, white double-cuff shirt/cufflinks, the usual flashes, black shoes, and pocket watch. I do have a fly-plaid, but am leaving that behind and saving for white tie. Like you, I will probably not wear my sgian dhu, but I think I will wear my sgian bru, instead.

[mattbeaty]

Chiming in: I think the Fly Plaid is an excellent way to offset yourself from the groomsmen and it is certainly one of the few occasions you can wear one without feeling overdreessed. I am getting married next September and will definitely be wearing one for my own "special day."

BUT, it is all about personal preference. You should feel free to wear whatever works, as long as you're happy being photographed extensively in it.

Some apparently think the fly plaid looks a bit silly. I think it rocks and I wish it was allowed out more often :-)

Regarding weapons (if you can call them that) I personally think it is the duty of the Best Man to carry a weapon during the ceremony, if not the reception. You shouldn't have to worry about it, but your best man should be prepared for anything. A wooden blade is an interesting idea, but if you are going to spend the money on something, it might as well be a real blade that he can actually *use* for future occasions.

Thats my 2 cents. Congratulations!

[Spartan Tartan]

I think you outfit as described will look great. I think it will make for some nice pictures when the day arrives.

Will the groomsmen be kilted as well? If so, will they be wearing their own tartans? Just asking for curiosity.

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. Don't sweat the fly plaid...you can always take it off or put it back on as you see fit.

[Bluescelt]

First of all congratulations on your upcoming wedding. I think a Scottish themed wedding is an excellent idea. I was married almost 2 years ago.I'm a Donnachaidh and my wife is Buchanan so there was plenty of tartan at the ceremony. We still get friends telling us it was the best wedding they have ever been to. The issue with the fly plaid is a valid one according to tradition but when you see photos from Scotland the reality is like us they are all over the place on what's acceptable highland wear. I'm sure that is dictated by kilt hire shops. You can see examples on the Balgonie Castle facebook page. Some of the grooms are dressed very traditionally and some have fly plaids. In the end you will do what is right for you.