More confused than when I started here. Help dress me for my own wedding?

[Jack Daw]

Hello, Wolf;

I'm getting married at 4:30pm next month. I'm also wearing long tie (either cream-colored or grey), black barathea Argyll/waistcoat, silver fox mask sporran (prior approval from fiancé received), diced hose, white double-cuff shirt/cufflinks, the usual flashes, black shoes, and pocket watch. I do have a fly-plaid, but am leaving that behind and saving for white tie. Like you, I will probably not wear my sgian dhu, but I think I will wear my sgian bru, instead.

[mattbeaty]

Chiming in: I think the Fly Plaid is an excellent way to offset yourself from the groomsmen and it is certainly one of the few occasions you can wear one without feeling overdreessed. I am getting married next September and will definitely be wearing one for my own "special day."

BUT, it is all about personal preference. You should feel free to wear whatever works, as long as you're happy being photographed extensively in it.

Some apparently think the fly plaid looks a bit silly. I think it rocks and I wish it was allowed out more often :-)

Regarding weapons (if you can call them that) I personally think it is the duty of the Best Man to carry a weapon during the ceremony, if not the reception. You shouldn't have to worry about it, but your best man should be prepared for anything. A wooden blade is an interesting idea, but if you are going to spend the money on something, it might as well be a real blade that he can actually *use* for future occasions.

Thats my 2 cents. Congratulations!

[Spartan Tartan]

I think you outfit as described will look great. I think it will make for some nice pictures when the day arrives.

Will the groomsmen be kilted as well? If so, will they be wearing their own tartans? Just asking for curiosity.

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. Don't sweat the fly plaid...you can always take it off or put it back on as you see fit.

[Bluescelt]

First of all congratulations on your upcoming wedding. I think a Scottish themed wedding is an excellent idea. I was married almost 2 years ago.I'm a Donnachaidh and my wife is Buchanan so there was plenty of tartan at the ceremony. We still get friends telling us it was the best wedding they have ever been to. The issue with the fly plaid is a valid one according to tradition but when you see photos from Scotland the reality is like us they are all over the place on what's acceptable highland wear. I'm sure that is dictated by kilt hire shops. You can see examples on the Balgonie Castle facebook page. Some of the grooms are dressed very traditionally and some have fly plaids. In the end you will do what is right for you.

[Jock Scot]

So, are you now less confused than you were?

[mattbeaty]

At the risk of showing my ignorance on the topic (and hijacking this thread) I pose the following question: If you can't wear the fly plaid at your own wedding, when *is* it (traditionally) acceptable to wear it?

The followup question being: How important is tradition going to be at your wedding?

[Liam]

At the risk of showing my ignorance on the topic (and hijacking this thread) I pose the following question: If you can't wear the fly plaid at your own wedding, when *is* it (traditionally) acceptable to wear it?

The followup question being: How important is tradition going to be at your wedding?

Those that have this opinion would suggest never.

[mookien]

At the risk of showing my ignorance on the topic (and hijacking this thread) I pose the following question: If you can't wear the fly plaid at your own wedding, when *is* it (traditionally) acceptable to wear it? ...

Ignoring the parenthetical adjective because, while its meaning can be agreed upon by some subset of kilt wearers, it cannot be defined, I would say any time you want to look "very Scottish" to about 99.9% of folks who will see you wearing it.