Question ! Advice needed

[Liam]

The other thought that came to mind is "If you have to ask, then the answer is likely no." My friends and relatives know that wearing a kilt is part of who I am and expect me to come dressed in it, and how often are you invited to the wedding of someone who is not a relative or a friend.
Jimmygk, without knowing how close a relationship you have with the bride and groom, it is hard to comment further. Also, are your sons and your wife on board? Another consideration is what the temperature is expected to be, how formal an occasion is planned. For example if a beach wedding is planned, while you can dress down a kilt it would be wise to know in advance.
Cheers and enjoy the wedding, whether kilted or not...

[jimmygk]

thank you very much for your very helpful replies .
having thought about it for sometime now , ive came to the following conclusion
if im even having to think about it in the first place and if i feel i have to ask permission , well theres the answer lol
thanks

[jimmygk]

thanks , as you say if i feel i have to ask , well the answer is no lol
they are good friends but they stay too far away and we only see one anothers on ocasion ,my boys and wife were all up for it and i was always going to dress down the kilt . i think ive over thought this , they probably dont care what il be wearing as long as were there , but i obviously have my reservations or i would never have asked the question
what should i wear now ? lol

[tpa]

Having nothing else really suitable for a wedding or other formal occasion, I've always worn my kilt and it has always been welcomed. Certainly check with the bride if you have any doubts, but I'm almost sure the answer will be "yes, please do", more especially if your sons are too.

It would take a full dress regalia to even attempt to outshine a well turned out bride. If there really was any danger of that, kilts would not be so popular for Scottish weddings.

You will find the kilt is comfortable to travel in as well. I've worn a woollen kilt to Greece, in the summer, no issues.

[Geoff Withnell]

For weddings outwith Scotland always ask the bride and her family. If the answer is yes never outshine the happy couple. If the answer is no well thats easy. If the answer is less than enthusiastic then the answer is no and accept all replies with good grace.

An after thought.

Personally I would never consider wearing the kilt to a wedding outwith Scotland, unless I was specifically asked by the bride. I would not ever ask to wear the kilt.

Jock, I would completely agree with you, accept in the case of some one, like either of us, who is known to wear the kilt frequently. I was invited to the wedding of a cousin, and no mention of the kilt was made. As the invitation specified "black tie" I rented a tux, as did most of the male guests. However, both the bride and her mother were upset with me. "We expected to see you in your best kilt finery!" So my own advice, if the bride is used to seeing you in a kilt, ask (discretely). And a less than obviously enthusiastic "yes" is indeed a "no".

[Jock Scot]

That was an unfortunate mixup Geoff, but frankly the bride, or more traditionally the bride's mother, is in charge. These days there does appear a wish for total command from the bride and they can't have it both ways! Should she have wanted you in the kilt then she should have said so. I think you made the right choice in the circumstances. Put it down to experience, I too have that T shirt!

[jimmygk]

I have contacted the bride and groom .i never mentioned kilts but they did say smart casual.the geoom is wearing shorts and shirt . so i think i will just leave the kilt at home

[tpa]

I have contacted the bride and groom .i never mentioned kilts but they did say smart casual.the geoom is wearing shorts and shirt . so i think i will just leave the kilt at home

My experience and I know it runs somewhat contrary to what others have advised, is that whenever I have considered wearing my kilt and decided against it, I have always had good reason to regret it. So now I just wear it.