What to wear as a kilted groom?

[Jack Daw]

Padre... with all respect to your beliefs, I find this statement somewhat "Victorian" in attitude although I know what you are getting at. Marriage is a partnership and a man does not "keep" a wife, nor does he "take" her home. Most ceremonies abolished the "obey" from the brides promise as in "love honour and obey" as well.
Just sayin...��

When we were discussing our marriage vows with her pastor, my fiance opted for the traditional vows with the "obey" in it. I said that that was ridiculous and that I would be the one to get grief over such archaic words. She insisted because she likes traditional things; but I said, "Well, if you want to obey me, we will remove "obey" from the vows! THERE, that settles it!" She just scoffed, and said the word "obey" will remain in the vows. My marriage remains a giant jigsaw puzzle with a piece or two always hidden by my wife.

[The Q]

When we were discussing our marriage vows with her pastor, my fiance opted for the traditional vows with the "obey" in it. I said that that was ridiculous and that I would be the one to get grief over such archaic words. She insisted because she likes traditional things; but I said, "Well, if you want to obey me, we will remove "obey" from the vows! THERE, that settles it!" She just scoffed, and said the word "obey" will remain in the vows. My marriage remains a giant jigsaw puzzle with a piece or two always hidden by my wife.

This is where we have a difference in the meaning of words, Keep in these circumstances is normally taken to mean "look after and protect" not "lock up, away from all others".
As for Obey, I think though She says it, it normally works the other way around and always has.....