wedding

[Father Bill]

I respectfully disagree with your assertion that at most weddings here in the US most men wear tuxedos. I'm M.C. at our church and there are dozens of weddings a year that I attend and I'd have to say that actual tuxedos are a rarity. Occasionally the wedding party will wear them, but more and more these days they wear a really nice suit or 3 piece suit. I have only seen 1 wedding in the past three years which was black tie for all attending and it was a late afternoon wedding with an evening reception at a very fancy country club. Other weddings that I attend as a guest are much the same.

But as you suggest, let the invitation be your guide.

CTB

Dinner jackets are pretty common for the wedding party in this part of Canada, but things vary an hour's drive down any road.

[Tobus]

I respectfully disagree with your assertion that at most weddings here in the US most men wear tuxedos. I'm M.C. at our church and there are dozens of weddings a year that I attend and I'd have to say that actual tuxedos are a rarity. Occasionally the wedding party will wear them, but more and more these days they wear a really nice suit or 3 piece suit.

This mirrors my experience as well (I'm a preacher's kid and have observed a lot of weddings, albeit it can vary wildly from city to city). Sometimes you get the people who really want to go all-out with dressing up the wedding party, and they will wear tuxedos, rent limos, etc. But in the last 20 years or so, it seems that more and more wedding parties just have the men in matching suits that complement the brides maids' dresses. The invited guests usually just wear whatever they feel like wearing, which is almost never a tuxedo. That would border on up-staging the wedding couple. If I had no other information about what to wear to a wedding as a guest, I'd wear a standard suit or the kilt equivalent.

[Elden]

I think in the USA at you could do your kilt button up shirt waistcoat and a tie if you want.

[Dollander]

I respectfully disagree with your assertion that at most weddings here in the US most men wear tuxedos. I'm M.C. at our church and there are dozens of weddings a year that I attend and I'd have to say that actual tuxedos are a rarity. Occasionally the wedding party will wear them, but more and more these days they wear a really nice suit or 3 piece suit. I have only seen 1 wedding in the past three years which was black tie for all attending and it was a late afternoon wedding with an evening reception at a very fancy country club. Other weddings that I attend as a guest are much the same.

This mirrors my experience as well (I'm a preacher's kid and have observed a lot of weddings, albeit it can vary wildly from city to city). Sometimes you get the people who really want to go all-out with dressing up the wedding party, and they will wear tuxedos, rent limos, etc. But in the last 20 years or so, it seems that more and more wedding parties just have the men in matching suits that complement the brides maids' dresses. The invited guests usually just wear whatever they feel like wearing, which is almost never a tuxedo. That would border on up-staging the wedding couple. If I had no other information about what to wear to a wedding as a guest, I'd wear a standard suit or the kilt equivalent.

Well, like I said, I've only been to a handful of weddings, and none of them were particularly recent. So given that only a single-digit percentage of American men nowadays wear ties to work on a daily basis, I'm not surprised that weddings have likewise become less formal.