Need Help

[dyfed]

A friend of the family is getting married in September and I want to wear my kilt, I think Im going to be the only one wearing one and I dont want to take away the attention form the wedding couple.
Should I wear the kilt or just wear a suit.... :confused:

thanks

[Alan H]

Answer...ask the bride and/or groom, whichever you know best. Tha'ts what I did for the one coming up in two weeks.

[sav]

Absolutely wear the kilt! 1. Rather than draw attention away from the wedding party, you will be showing them how much care you have taken to look presentable for the wedding. 2. A kilt, especially when worn formally, adds an aura of respectability to your garb. 3. If people seem to be making more fuss over your kilt than the wedding party, gently remind them that this is your friend's special day, and that you dressed in your kilt to show your respects. Hope this helps! Good luck with your decision.

[bubba]

Ask the Bride. It is, after all, HER day.

[Freelander Sporrano]

I wouldn't try to attention grab by wearing a full PC

However wear your kilt with a day jacket(Crail or Braemar) if you have one and a white shirt and a plain tie of a colour from your tartan. Plain shoes with cream/oatmeal hose pulled up. Flashes if you have them, and I plain day or semi/Dress sporran

Don't over do it you'll be fine

[Archangel]

Ask.
My experience was not so happy. I think more pictures were taken of me and the bride than the groom and the bride. I was uncomfortable with that. But they had wanted me to. I won't do it again if I'm the only kilted one.

They were off to a rough start anyway and divorced several years later. I don't blame myself, I'm just sad for them.

[M. A. C. Newsome]

I wore my kilt to my brother-in-law's wedding. I was the only one kilted. The morning of the wedding, as we were both getting dressed and ready, I told him that I bought my kilt, and I brought a suit, and asked which he would rather me wear.

"You brought your kilt!" he exclaimed. "Oh, man, wear your kilt!" He was extremely honored, he said, that I would want to wear my kilt to his wedding. He thought the whole thing was just awesome. The whole drive to the church he was telling me that this was the best thing that had happened all day (I told him that I hoped his day got better!).

Anyway, the point is, both bride and groom were extremely honored by my wearing the kilt, but that I did ask first. It was a day-time wedding, and I didn't wear anything flashy or overly formal. My wife and daughter were in the wedding party, but I was not, so I spent most of the wedding in the back of the church with our young son. People really liked my kilt, and pictures were taken, but of course all the attention was really on the bride and groom.

The picture on my homepage is one taken from that wedding.

Some people may feel differently, though. If the bride or groom feels that you being kilted is going to distract from the main focus, then I'd respect that decision. After all, it's about them, not you! So ask -- chances are they will be honored.
Aye,
Matt

[Bob C]

I wouldn't try to attention grab by wearing a full PC

However wear your kilt with a day jacket(Crail or Braemar) if you have one and a white shirt and a plain tie of a colour from your tartan. Plain shoes with cream/oatmeal hose pulled up. Flashes if you have them, and I plain day or semi/Dress sporran

Don't over do it you'll be fine

There's your answer, right there.

[lrpddrummie]

While it is not standard practice to ask the bride and groom what you should wear to a wedding, kilts are still not mainstream attire, so I would out of respect for the bride and groom ask them first. Afterall, we all know wearing a kilt definitely draws attention. If they say yes fantastic but like others have said dress appropriately for the occasion.

[jfellrath]

I'd ask the bride. They can get awfully touchy about this stuff. My wife asked my sister for me - I was originally of the "no one tells me what to wear" point of view. My sister said that as long as I wasn't regimental it was okay. And my wife enforced the rule on me - even checking me personally before heading down to the ceremony. Sigh...

And I got lifted, too, revealing me as a poseur for the evening.