Who am I ?

[Alan H]

This is a really tough one, and I have no good answers. Al G. Sporrano's story is a truly heartwarming one, and don't we all wish that they could be like that.

I'll say this much. You're an adult, now, and it's time that your dad and his sister told you all the truth if you want to know it. I would sit down with them at some point, and without being angry or confrontational, just plain flat-out ask them. I will cross my fingers for you and hope that YOUR search results in something as wonderful.

My story? I knew my mother had been married before she met my dad. In fact, I believed that she had been married twice, a rare things in the 1940's and early 1950's. I knew the names of one of the guys and thought I knew the name of the other. My mother and her brother had a huge legal battle over my grandmothers estate, and from the time I was about 6 years old until she died, nearly 40 years later, she never spoke to her brother. I had NO contact with my cousins or my aunt.

A couple of years ago, after my Dad died, I got to thinking....All of the people who fought, all those years ago were probably dead. It turned out that my aunt, hadn't. Another relative had passed on their mailing address, years before in an attempt to patch things up. I'd kept her letter. So one day I wrote my cousins a letter saying that enough time had passed and that I wanted to get together.

At our second meeting we watched old home movies, and there was my mother, at a family dinner in 1947, sitting around with her previous husband. I'd never seen him before. It was a pretty moving experience.