I come from a military background. I hate leaving the house with out a good shine on my shoes, and a good pressing on my shirts.
My roomate is the exact oposite. never shines shoes etc. when we go out and chat up the lasses. He is as sucessful as I "Sometimes more...darn it" . Do the clothes make the man? Sometimes. As far as wives, and girlfriends I believe it is disrespectful to a female companion to not at least make an effort to look your best. She makes the effort, so should I. When I look my best, it makes me feel better.
If that is not your thing fine. But wrinkles and dis-shevled looks make me crindge.....Unless that is the look you are going for....LOL