Bless me father, for I have sinned.

[Panache]

Frank,

The real question is this:

What would your son and new daughter in law like you to wear?

It's their day. Make them happy and forget about the rest.

Cheers

[A Hay]

I agree with NewKilt and Panache. Ask the new daughter what she thinks. It's her big day. There will be plenty of other times to deal with the father of the bride.

There are many, many letters to Dear Abby and others that show where a little thing like this on a wedding day starts off a new marriage under strain.

Could also put your son under pressure if he has to decide wether to support you or his bride. IMHO he should support her. Been in that sticky position once or twice.

[Rob Wright]

Sometimes it isn't the right the to do to wear the kilt, my father often requests that I don't when I do things with my parents, sometimes I do, sometimes I don't, it depends on the situation.

One time that I did wear the kilt when my father asked me not to was last Christmas Eve. My grandfather had just passed away and my grandmother was staying with my folks for a while. The whole family was goingt to the candlelight service.

My grandmother had never seen me wear the kilt and it's through her that I have the Douglas connection, so I dressed up in the Douglas ancient, charcoal jacket, dress sporran, real nice looking.

My grandmother was speechless, she had never seen any of the Douglas tartans, and she was amazed at the usual round of comments, and some of the college girls back visiting thier folks over the holidaywere awestruck.

So just like anything else, it's what you decide is best for the situation.

Rob

[Southern Breeze]

I would have done the same. Time spent with ones family is more important.

[Caradoc]

I would have done the same. Time spent with ones family is more important.

Again, I'd have to say "not necessarily," for the same reasons I've mentioned before.

If the request is coming from a level of discomfort via unfamiliarity, sure. If it's a "real men don't wear such garments," no, I wouldn't have conceded to the request myself.

For the wedding question, ask the bride and groom. Do NOT ask their parents.