I wear tartan and non-tartan kilts golfing all the time. I am always welcomed with open arms at all the courses I have played. Most are excited by someone wearing and playing golf in the traditional fashion. More people engage me in conversation while kilting than if I was in pants. Tell the starter or whomever that you are offended by some of the long baggy shorts that some people are wearing. And as you asked, are there not women wearing skorts and skirts? Ask where the dress code is posted and what does it say? See if there are any old photos around the proshop or clubhouse with men in kilts and point them out to him. Be tactful about it but go on the offensive.