Told NO!

[Monkey@Arms]

I can sympathize. While in a bad mood my wife accused me of wearing the kilt just to garner attention. Of course, that doesn't explain all the times I wear it at home. Sometimes its difficult marching to the beat of your own drummer. Appreciate all the advice being offered on the forum.

Best regards,

Jake

[Livingston]

Loads of good advise above. One thing I can think of, if you go to concerts like this more than once a decade, would be to suggest you will follow her wishes this time and then next time you get to wear the kilt with appropriate dress sporran, white shirt and Argyl jacket. The PC might be too dressy.

Just my 2 cents.

[toadinakilt]

Hmm, thank God for singleness...at least this is one battle I don't have to have anymore...until Miss Wonderful comes along, I'm good to go!

[Alan H]

My compromise on this is (was) that if it's "her" event.... like one of her orchestra concerts, or a dance concert, or a relatives party, or something we're doing on her bithday, something like that, then I usually didn't (and still somtimes don't) wear a kilt.

Now, this has changed slightly in the 18 months I've been trotting around in a kilt, and now I attend most of her concerts kilted, and recently went to her aunts 80th birthday in a kilt. But when I started, if an event was truly HER event or her families event, I put on pants. This was because she just wasn't used tome in a kilt, and thought it was kind of odd.

If it was "My" event...a celtic music concert, Highland Games, or a "joint event-low key" like a movie, I'd likely wear a kilt.

Now that 18 months has gone by and she sees that I'm not just doing this as a flash-in-the-pan fad, I'm going to most "special events" kilted. However, I still have no problem belting on pants if she asks me to. I mean, I wear a kilt probably 3/4's of the time, now, it won't KILL me to put on pants for an evening.

[pdcorlis]

Every person is different - every relationship is different. Maybe you can try a bit of kilt desensitization as others have suggested. As for me - I know that sometimes I just have to decide if I'd rather be happy or right.

Enjoy the concert!