Good News/bad News

[NewKilt]

I really like Blu's suggested reply note. It is unfortunate when wearing a kilt is an issue with some family members. The grandmother, celebrating her 100th might have been delighted to see a man wearing a kilt.

I'm very fortunate that my wearing a kilt has not been an issue on my side of the family or my wife's side.

Darrell

[Roan Carter]

My family has had few troubles with the kilt ...

My grandmother passed away with the coming of the cold weather this year, and when I attended her funeral I went in some formal pants, shirt, and tie, etc. Her side of the family was more English, and the only resistance I ever received in kilt-wearing was from her son, my dad. I figured it was no time to even think about it, even though I pretty much wear kilts daily now. I got dress pants and things just for that ocassion.

I think at any other funeral, I would have gone in a kilt, with a jacket and tie. But I knew how my dad felt and didn't mind wearing pants for a day.

As for a birthday party -- I don't understand the difficulty with a kilt. I'm sorry they've chosen to discriminate that way. But the glory of the post modern world is that if someone in your family bugs you, you don't necessarily have to deal with it. ;)

[Norbydog]

What I would do:

I would send a return note, which read "I am sorry that I cannot attend the 'No Norbydog Party' " (not my real name).

I would also come visit my cousin's grandmother the day before the party, kilted, with the most lavish and thoughtful gift I could find. And hope she spent the whole party talking about it.

P.S. A very similar event happened to me at my in-law's extended family home during Christmas two years ago. Now my wife, her parnets, and sister refuse to visit for the holidays.

[switchblade5984]

i just read that note to my dad!

he says "its Perfect and he could not think of a better response!

thanks!"

[Joe Gondek]

All I can say about it is;
You can pick your friends but you can't pick your relatives.

[Kelson]

Blu, a GREAT response! I'm sure all of us will have an opportunity to use it. I would love to see the face of the recipient.

[michael steinrok]

Blu, thank you for the most civil and appropriate response possible. I had not expected it so soon, but I did wait for the right response. I was going to think on it before I replied. I am very glad I waited. I wrote verbatim your response only adding "Love Michael" to the end.

Blu, any thoughts on applying for the position of Ambassador to the UN?

[cessna152towser]

Good suggestions there from Blu and Norbydog.
Whoever wrote the post-it note is obviously a sad inadequate who would prefer to spoil granny's party than run the risk of coming a poor second in the best dressed guest contest.