Quote Originally Posted by crboltz
Terms for same sex weddings are up in the air. I know, for lack of a better term, I was a brides maid in a dear friends wedding (in fact the only 2 females in the wedding party were the bride and the maid of honor -- as the bride put it "I don't get along with women") We are going with the statement that there are 2 groomsmen, 2 best men, and 2 ring bearers. We are toying with asking the spouces of the best men and the parents of the ring bearers to be ushers and ask our guests "Friend of the groom or friend of the groom?" But i'm not sure everyone will appreciate my sence of humor. There are a number of people coming who I said they want to come who I thought would be upset with the concept, and a bunch who will be shocked when we are all in kilts. So there will be enough 'angst' without my bad jokes all day.

I say go for it. Its a harmless joke, and it is YOUR day (well yours and his lol) not theirs. You don't have to be "Bridezilla" but it is about the two of you.
I have been part of two weddings now where I was not standing on the bride's side because of family memebers not being comfortable with my being a "bridesmaid". And both of them have told me later they regret not doing it the way they wanted in the first place.
So do as you will, if it harm none
After all for the one day at least it really is "All about YOU".