I am in a similar situation. My wife always finds a way to work "your skirt" into her comments when I am putting on my kilt and she refuses to refer to a kilt other than a "skirt." A sporran is always a "purse." She will not willing hold hands in public or stand next to me. Our compromise is that I say nothing about her not wearing makeup, not wearing jewelry and purposely standing hunched over like an old woman with bone trouble (she actually stands 1.5" taller than me).

I am not giving up the kilts. If I'd known she was going to be like this I never would have married her in the 1st place. If she gets fed up and wants a divorce I will not sweat it because there are too many women out there that want a man in a kilt that is a top notch cook and not afraid to help clean house.