Some postive spouse response

[Monkey@Arms]

As indicated in past threads I've had the typical mixed reaction about the whole kilt thing from wife. We've been together almost 20 years, and my wearing a kilt is a new development. There were moments of outright hostility to the concept, to helpful support, and everything in between.

So today she comes back from her office holiday party, and she reports that people were talking about my kilt. (I wore a UK while marching in the July 4th parade with her office contingent, discussed here.) Apparently there were some approving remarks made to her (perhaps of a slightly ribald nature), one guy at the table then referred to it as a skirt and the other ladies at the table jumped on him about it. So I say, well great, because I was thinking of wearing my SWK to your manager's open house on Christmas eve. Sure, she says, as if I said I was going to wear black shoes.

Now for you guys whose spouses (of any gender) were approving from the get-go, that's no big deal. But for me, I'd like to think of it as a sign of progress, and offer it to others whose spouses are on the fence as a hopeful indication that with patience (and desensitization) they might eventually come around.

Best regards,

Jake

[MrLion]

Thanks for the encouraging note.

[thescot]

HOpe springs eternal within this human breast. Maybe your wife could call mine and do lunch.

[Tattoo Bradley]

Yeah, get my wife in that luncheon as well.

[TimC]

Hey, that's great Jake. It's hard when the other half isn't on the same page as you on ANY subject but even more so when it's something as emotionally charged (pride for instance) as wearing a kilt. Does this mean we may see BOTH of you at a Beer Friday at some point???

-Tim

[Alan H]

It took my lady about 6 months to get to grundging acceptance, but nowadays if i do a good job of putting stuff together, she'll actually tell me I look nice.

Here's the thing....if someone ELSE says something snide about my kilts, then all I have to do is turn her loose on 'em and they retreat, bleeding from multiple wounds. nope, nope..it's her prerogative and only her prerogative to rag on me about kilts.

[Panache]

...Here's the thing....if someone ELSE says something snide about my kilts, then all I have to do is turn her loose on 'em and they retreat, bleeding from multiple wounds. nope, nope..it's her prerogative and only her prerogative to rag on me about kilts.

After she has completely accepted the kilt wearing, what will she rag on you about then? What indeed

Jake,

Glad to hear you are making progress. Good on your wife for being accepting.

Cheers

[Mr. Kilt]

For those who have unsupportive wives, here is a little story about persistance. Somewhat off-topic, but the point of the story is similar.

When I first met my wife, she hated motorcycles. So much so that I wasn't allowed to even mention the word. She'd had a bad experience with motorcycles in a past relationship (insane sportbike rider who crashed with her on the back), and she refused to have anything to do with them since.

I hadn't had a bike for 6 years prior to meeting her, but I always hoped to start riding again. My future wife's opinion kind of nixed that idea, or so I thought. I started to bring up the subject of bikes very gradually, pointing out the nice customized ones we'd occasionally see at a car show or on the streets. Over time she started to see the beauty in some of the bikes, but the possibility of owning one was still out of the question.

One day at a family reunion one of my cousins had his big Harley tour bike with him, and he was giving all the kids rides. I asked him if he'd take my wife out if she was willing, and if so to please ride carefully and calmly. After alot of discussion she finally agreed to go, probably just to shut me up. :rolleyes:

Well hell, after that she didn't want to get off the bike!! She realized how much fun they could be with a safe and responsible rider. She told me that once we had our finances in order that I could buy another bike. In 2003 I did just that, and now she absolutely LOVES to ride with me. Her biggest regret is that she spent all those years resisting me about bikes.

Moral of the story...keep working on your wives. With time and patience there is a very good chance they will see the light.

[Captain]

I think I may have some good news on this front as well... but it might be too early to tell. I wore my new Clark/Clergy tartan casual from USAK last night and within 5 minutes my wife said both:

"I can't believe you wore that, it's embarrassing"

and

"You look good tonight... er... ahh... I mean from the waist up."

I have the sneaking suspicion that the Utilikilt didn't fit her idea of a kilt, but the new USAK does and she's fighting the fact that she likes it.

I've seen her do this before... I'll beg and plead to get her to see a movie and then finally, a month after watching it, she'll tell me that it was a good film and she really enjoyed it... Then there's the TIVO. It took me a year and a half to talk her into buying one... 3 weeks after we did she told me she doesn't know how she lived without one... :rolleyes:

It seems as if I like it she wants to fight it as a matter of principle... even if she does approve.

[Monkey@Arms]

Does this mean we may see BOTH of you at a Beer Friday at some point???

-Tim

Beer Friday's are difficult both logistically, and because she hates beer. :confused: Now if we could get them to stock cider . . . I am still working on getting her to the Burns' Supper.

Best regards,

Jake