I need some help with my family.

[souzaphone711]

Dragoninterrupted, thanks for the reminder about kiltmen.com I had completely forgotten about that resource and how useful it might be. I'm going to direct my parents there so they can take a look at it.

-Nate

[flairball]

Don't expect the change to happen overnight. If your father changes his opinion it will happen gradually. My wife was initially resistant to my kilt wearing, but she is slowly changing. The change came about as a direct result of the many positive comments I've recieved while wearing the kilt.

My advice would be to find times, and occassions when it would be acceptable to your father to wear your kilt with your father. On those occassions make sure you look your best; nice shirt, tie, hose, flashes,...the works. In short, dress like, and act like a complete gentleman. Over time your father will begin to realize that you are recieving positive reactions, and compliments from people, and slowly he will realize that wearing a kilt is no big deal.

It's often been said that the dress makes the man, and I believe this to be especially true when kilted. Use the kilt to shape your life, and mold you into what your parents want you to be; a gentleman. This is something that you should take an interest in as well. I recommend buying a book on the subject. If the outfit doesn't draw positive comments your behavior will. If your father sees what a gentleman you are becoming he might also start to realize that what you wear isn't too important.

[Deil the Yin]

For my two cents worth... KEEP PUSHING THE ENVELOPE, albeit gently, of how much they let you wear the kilt. The more they are around you in the kilt and in public, the more comfortable they'll become and especially they'll see how positive most folk really see it.

Be sure to never be disrespectful to them when discussing the matter, and I imagine two very usefull qualities might be humility and patience. I'd bet good money that in the end if they dont come to positively support you, they will at least respect your interest in wearing the kilt.

As others have mentioned, learn all you can about the culture which has spawned the kilt and why so many men are so proud to wear it (I am assuming you are wearing it for cultural significance at least in some way). A great way to introduce your parents to this is to take them to the Stone Mountain Games or some other such reputable Scottish Fest. There is also the Atlanta Celtic Fest and several good Fests in nearbye South Carolina.

Hope that's usefull... Best of Luck with it. Maybe we'll see you at Burns!

[corbinj]

Hey, I am the father of a kilt wearing kid. My son Iver wears his kilts alot. He started wearing them to school his freshman year. He is now almost 16 years old. His mother is very opposed to kilt wearing (she hates mine she hates his) so we have established a few ground rules. 1.his grades have to be his best, 2. He has to respect his elders, even the dumb ones (this rule is esp. hard for me I have been a punk my whole life and i'm old!) 3. he has to wear boxers under (even the Queen agrees with this, high school is no place for the regiment) 4. He must always reflect our family values, courage, honesty, integrity, respect, and humility. He must never be involved in anything that hurts his or the families reputation. He works hard to be a good kid, I'm sure if you do also, You will be able to wear your kilt. Help your parents make some kilt rules for you to follow. Then follow them, be respectful. kilt on!

[Splash_4]

Hey, I am the father of a kilt wearing kid. My son Iver wears his kilts alot. He started wearing them to school his freshman year. He is now almost 16 years old. His mother is very opposed to kilt wearing (she hates mine she hates his) so we have established a few ground rules. 1.his grades have to be his best, 2. He has to respect his elders, even the dumb ones (this rule is esp. hard for me I have been a punk my whole life and i'm old!) 3. he has to wear boxers under (even the Queen agrees with this, high school is no place for the regiment) 4. He must always reflect our family values, courage, honesty, integrity, respect, and humility. He must never be involved in anything that hurts his or the families reputation. He works hard to be a good kid, I'm sure if you do also, You will be able to wear your kilt. Help your parents make some kilt rules for you to follow. Then follow them, be respectful. kilt on!

Now, this is really good advice.