What would you do if your mother asked you?

[Dreadbelly]

I'd tell her that a gramma that can't respect heritage is never going to see her grandchild ever again.

In baby talk.

And I'd probably tell the old bat to STHU. But I don't recommend that you do this.

I do know what I would have done though. First words out of her mouth I would have escorted her to the door and told her to get the hell out, and don't come back till you get some respect for your own flesh and blood.

[starbkjrus]

I'd tell her that a gramma that can't respect heritage is never going to see her grandchild ever again.

In baby talk.

And I'd probably tell the old bat to STHU. But I don't recommend that you do this.

I do know what I would have done though. First words out of her mouth I would have escorted her to the door and told her to get the hell out, and don't come back till you get some respect for your own flesh and blood.

I've probably had too many family encounters (not about the kilt) that I am jaded. What I would do is be a bit more forceful than Dread (above). She would be told in NO UNCERTAIN TERMS that she would change her tone or she would no longer be allowed to see her grandchild. You have a MAJOR issue here with a MIL who is going to try to rule your life. Deal with her NOW. If you don't (and especially if your wife plays along) you are going to be miserable and your life will be dictated by this er....person. Fix her or get rid of her before she ruins your marriage!