Some help with genealogy please?

[Coemgen]

I've already talked to them. I know (as I have said) all there is to know about my mom's side of the family, and about my dad's adoptive family, that there is to know. In any case, my mom's father and both my dad's adoptive parents are dead, and his biological mother won't discuss his biological father. So, I can safely wait a while to invest more time and money than I have now.

[gilmore]

... So, I can safely wait a while to invest more time and money than I have now.

Go to www.ftdna.com. Click on Surname Projects and see if there is one for your surname. If you join through the project, the 12 marker Y chromosome test is only $99, about the price of an inexpensive kilt. The results would be the same for your father as for you, so either of you could do it. In fact, it might be better for your father to do it, since his DNA is a bit less likely to have mutated than yours. Perhaps other relatives might be interested in helping with the cost if that is an issue.

If there is a 12 out of 12 match in Family Tree's database, you could then think about their testing more markers in your sample (they are kept for 25 years) and thus determine how closely related you are to the person(s) you match with.

You can also post the results at www.ysearch.org, where results from different companies are posted, and see if there is a match there.

Once you are armed with this knowlege, your biological grandmother might come around.

ON THE OTHER HAND....she may have other reasons for not being candid with you, reasons that supercede your curiosity. To give you an example, I had a friend who learned only after her mother and all her aunts and uncles were dead---except for one aunt who told her the story one night when she was drunk--- that contrary to what she had been told all her life, her biological father was actually her mother's brother.