You know, I have to chime in here, as both a father and someone who wears the kilt full time. My son wants long hair. Fine. No problem. My hair is halfway down my back. My son wants to dress "goth". Fine. I look like a biker in a kilt, so I don't mind the odd look. My son wants to wear fingernail polish and black lipstick!! NOT fine!! What the... I know from experience that he will picked on as it is, without benefit of lipstick and fingernail polish. I do know that there are some lines you don't cross at the tender young age of nine. He's already been allowed to cross a few. But you do have to draw the line somewhere. The way I see it, black lipstick and fingernail polish would be perfectly fine. The real problem is that a LOT of other people don't see it that way. He needs to understand that you can express yourself and push the rules without breaking them. You have to find that balance between self expression and antisocial behavior. One will eventually earn you respect, while the other will earn you nothing but trouble and ridicule. Wearing the kilt- which is in truth one of the very few articles of clothing that is still exclusively masculine- is one of those methods of self expression that will earn you respect. If you were wanting to wear a dress to school, that would be different. Like it or not, crossdressing is one of those antisocial behaviors that will earn you nothing but trouble and ridicule. I expect that your dad views the kilt in much the same way as I view lipstick and fingernail polish. It sounds to me as if he's trying to protect you. Is it the right way to go about it? I don't think so, since the historical fact of the matter is that the kilt is a mans garment. The fact of the matter is that the entire world sees the kilt as a very classy and elegant garment. There are even Japanese companies that have their own tartan. Personally, I think that if you show your dad a respectable knowledge of the legacy of the garment and can show him that you have a good solid reason for wanting to wear it (other than "Well, I like it" or "It's comfortable") he will eventually back down. Don't expect an over night change. I had to hide my (rather large) Iron Maiden memorabilia collection from my parents for years because of the "OOOO!!! Heavy metal is from the devil!!" crap that people tried to pull back in the early 80's.

So I have to add here that this is not really meant to be advice; more like an offering of possibly different perspectives. I have been on both sides of the argument.

Quote Originally Posted by sharpdressedscot View Post
I think the worst I will get is teased, I go to a magnet school and a fight gets you out of the school and no one really wants that.

But I guess your right though, I'm relatively new to the school. Maybe I should wait a little bit.
If you happen to have Celtic blood, then there is a band called Needfire who have a song called Young Free and Celtic- I forget exactly how the lyrics go, but they say never forget what it costs to be free. Good men died to protect our rights. Every other race in this country gets to express themselves. We have black this, latino that, Italian the other (which is all great- it's one of the best things about living in this country!) but if you're white, you're just that- white. We don't have any cool distinctions like Irish American or German American. We don't get a White History Month or a Celtic equivelant to Cinco de Mayo. We're just white. The way I see it, I'm not doing anything deviant- I'm actually adding my voice to the din of cultural expression. Show them exactly who you are and never be ashamed. People pick on those who look at the carpet.

Not that any of this will help you... although I hope it does! Good luck.