Well part of the problem is in the attitudes of some who wear the kilt.

First, in reading the thread mentioned above, the poster is talking about the fact it "made his day" to have a young lady lift his kilt. If there are those who feel it is not only ok to have a kilt lifted but that they in fact want it lifted that creates a problem for all.

Second, a preponderance of moon shots by those in kilts. Again this leads others to believe that kilt wearers want to show off what is underneath.

Lastly, as seen on this forum in all too many threads many kilt wearers are (in my opinion) overly focussed on what they do or do not wear under their kilt. if it is such a big deal to us no wonder others are fascinated.

While I agree that because some invite it does not mean a "lifter" should feel free to lift anyone's kilt. The fact is however, if we want to rid ourselves of "lifters" we need to scold anyone who thinks it great fun to expose themselves while wearing a kilt, as much as those who do the lifting.