Ron, I had a rueful smile while reading your post. Yes, I've had folks say they could see something as I sat while kilted, even though my position or theirs or both would have made that next to impossible. And every time, it set me to wondering: what is their issue? I mean I'm 55, as happily married as one can be after 35 years of marriage, and past the point of wanting to draw attention or cause a stir.

I've thought that maybe the folks, mainly female members of my family come to think of it, were expressing some of their own frustration from years of guarding against others "seeing something" or dealing with people saying or acting like they had indeed seen "something"; maybe they were eager for the chance to return the favor on a guy. I don't know; I don't argue, just adjust for effect and/or apologize.

Last Thanksgiving, my brother-in-law and I were kilted, and a couple of aunts who had missed the last reunion were mighty curious about out kilts, and though they never posed "the question", I noticed they were sure eagle-eyed when we sat. Hadn't been that scrutinized since I was twentysomething! (...of course back then I may have been tempted to "give them something to talk about", as one of Bonnie Raitt's songs go.

Anyway, I've never retorted or disputed. So far, a "sorry about that, won't happen again" has sufficed.