What am I doing wrong?

[Arlen]

I have to admit, from what you've said it seems to me that you are very careful and no one should be able to see anything.
There is the chance that you are moving after you have sit down and exposing something, but that would have to be quite a big move.
I would suspect that it is simply some people having very active imaginations.
Here's an example.

My sister recently told me I had to cross my legs when I was wearing my kilt because she could see my underwear.
I informed her that crossing your legs often made everything more visible. And I called her out. I asked her what colour underwear I was wearing.
'Black' She replied.
'No. Bright red and yellow tartan.' I said. (The kilt was grey tweed, so there could be no mix-ups.)

Perhaps you could have a quiet word with her and say that you are very careful and perhaps even lie and say you were wearing underwear so they shouldn't have been able to see anything at all.
Inform her that you will accede to her wishes if you are in her home, but that if you plan on going anywhere in public together you will continue to wear whatever you want.


Whatever you decide to do, good luck.

[Nick the DSM]

OR!!

instead of you seeing them, they could be seeing you- in your own house!!! they can't saying anything since its your house!!!!!

[KiltedBill]

Here are a few suggestions:

#1 - Agree to never wear the kilt to the in-laws, and at each invite, state that you won't be "comfortable" going to the in-laws and decline to go. Besides, you're too embarrassed after the last visit.

#2 - If your anatomy is able, wear jeans or trousers with a waist a bit too large for you, so that you show a bit of "crack", and then pick up a habit of being a bit clumsy; i.e. "Oops, I dropped my napkin again. Let me just bend over and get that." :butt:

#3 - As was stated before, wear that dang kilt everwhere except the in-laws, and be sure to wear it in every photograph that they'll see, especially Holiday cards!

Seriously, she may be able to control what happens in her house, but don't let her control the rest of the world. Try to be amicable and work out something that everyone will be comfortable with, including YOU! Keep your chin up!