Where is the respect? - Rant

**Friday** · 3rd August 08, 08:28 AM

I was just reading a thread in which a serving member of the armed services said that he was hesitant about posting a picture in kilted uniform. He was concerned about being flamed and he was flamed.

I am not questioning the right of the person who questioned his right to wear the uniform and ribbons shown but why did it have to be in a negative tone? I simple search would have shown that the picture was of a serving officer, but, even so the same question could have been stated in a positive way. The simple question of "What unit are/did you serve with and what are the ribbons for?" Could have raised the same concern.

I have been noticing more and more negative posts there are some member that as soon as I see their Avatar I skip the post. 90% of the time these post will be very negatively stated.

I like the exchange of ideas here and some time the disagreement may become very heated. But even if we are in a heated we can be respectful.

I would call on the forum for a week of total respect. Before you post think can I state this is a more positive way?

**ForresterModern** · 3rd August 08, 08:38 AM

Hear, hear.

**hospitaller** · 3rd August 08, 08:41 AM

*** on this issue!

And I would like to append to your rant, as I think it falls in the same category, is how quickly some here are to criticize anything with the Pakistan label in it.

Some reputable and even historic brands/manufacturers are chided simply for being in Pakistan.

And that is not fair or at what I consider to be the level of this forum at all.

**Larry124** · 3rd August 08, 08:45 AM

I agree about that post. And to state things in a positive way.

But first…

IMHO (no, IMHARO – In My Humble And Respectful Opinion) “respect” is all too often used as a "hot" buzzword -- to change the subject from disagreement or dislike for an opinion to a personal and negative attribution of intention or motive. To attack an opponent. A debating technique. An argument ender.

Like justice, respect can be given, or sought, but it cannot in all circumstances be compelled.

We could do just as well with a week without references to respect.

**Rex_Tremende** · 3rd August 08, 08:52 AM

How about a week of skipping over any thread that has the word "rant" in its title?

Regards,
Rex.

**george7** · 3rd August 08, 08:54 AM

This shouldn't be just a week, since it is the point of this forum.

**Panache** · 3rd August 08, 09:01 AM

"Where's the respect?"

A very good question, the Moderators often ask that amongst themselves.

I put it to you that the vast majority of people on X Marks the Scot are true gentlemen and ladies. We are by and large a polite, friendly, helpful, and positive group. Given the anonymity aqfforded by the internet that is no small thing. There are truely insensitve or mean folks that enjoy stirring up trouble out there and we try our best to step in and deal with them. Sometimes withi a gentle nudge on the open forum and sometimes we deal with them officialy in private. More challenging are the few people here on XMTS, that though they may have some very valid and thoughtful points, communicate poorly.

Don't let a few negative posters sour your view about this community. I am very proud to be a member of this group.

Respect is an important part of what XMTS is and something to keep in mind when posting. I wrote this a while back but I think it is valid:

http://www.xmarksthescot.com/forum/p...x.html?t=35024

Cheers

Jamie