My wife is not on board with the whole kilt thing.

**Carolina Kiltman** · 2nd September 08, 07:28 PM

Originally Posted by Ted Crocker

I hereby take back all of my advice in this thread, and run for my life.

I'm with both of you. My Father told me as I was leaving for college: "Never get between a man and his wife. The cemeteries are full of people who did!" No way am I getting involved with this one!

**werewolves** · 2nd September 08, 08:22 PM

This is maybe the best advice I've seen on the subject:
http://www.kiltmen.com/wives.htm

PS: Their section on overcoming religious objections is brilliant as well.

**CDNSushi** · 2nd September 08, 09:09 PM

Originally Posted by werewolves

PS: Their section on overcoming religious objections is brilliant as well.

"Trousers are an abomination to God, because they disrespect the anatomy that God gave to men!

ROFLOL!!!!!!!!

**werewolves** · 2nd September 08, 09:17 PM

Originally Posted by CDNSushi

"Trousers are an abomination to God, because they disrespect the anatomy that God gave to men!

ROFLOL!!!!!!!!

I know, genius of the tongue-firmly-in-cheek variety

Sorry for the hijack, and now back to our regularly scheduled thread

**bigdad1** · 2nd September 08, 06:42 PM

If your daughter bought you the kilt she must think they are okay. Perhaps she can talk to your wife. I hate to sound cranky but if you have the kilt and you want to wear it and your wife won't go out with you when you have it on try leaving her at home alone a few times and see if that doesn't change her narrow mind. She may be a wonderful woman but she is exerting a lot of influence over your wardrobe when it should be your choice. suggested earlier you might ask her if you can pick out her clothes.
Good luck and good kilting.

**CDNSushi** · 2nd September 08, 07:10 PM

Hmm... Well, so far I think robthehiker's first bit of advice back on page 1 of this thread was by far the most helpful.

I notice from your profile that you live in Texas. It's interesting that even here in Japan I got a buncha Texans -- namely the church pastor and his family. When I started wearing my kilt to church, they were taken aback at first, but very quickly adapted. Although, they told me,

"There's no way you could come to Texas dressed like that though. You'd get your butt kicked!"

The next week at church I held them to what they said, and told them, "Baloney!" I would do just fine in Texas kilted. I then proceeded to show them that Texas even had its own official state tartan and that a lot of folk were pretty darn proud of it too!

Maybe that would help change your wife's mind. That, and maybe remind her that many military, paramilitary and police officer units wear the kilt on formal occasions. It's almost par for the course to have witnessed a funeral for a serviceman where there is at least a kilted piper playing.

I suppose that some of this may also be the fact that the U.S. is a little distanced from us Commonwealth folk. Growing up in Canada, I saw lotsa people in kilts. Never, ever thought anything of it, even once. Even the other day when I went out in my kilt to the local pub, I sat at a table with two other Canadians and an Ozzie... No one even mentioned my attire for the first five minutes until finally someone at the table asked me if there was a special occasion since I was wearing the plaid, but when I said "no" that it was just for style and comfort, the conversation moved on and the topic wasn't re-visited thereafter.

I'd say give it some time. I also like the idea of having your daughter who bought you the kilt have a kind word with your wife... Some people just need a lot more time to get accustomed to an idea than others.

(I'm still trying to get accustomed to the fact that a friend of mine -- as straight as a straight man can be, started carrying a "murse." It's weird. And he's always announcing to others that he can't find his murse... or he left something in his murse... But I mean, it's not like I'd not be seen with him in public or anything. You just won't see me with one of those anytime soon, that's all. But the world's a changing place. Ask me what I think of this in 10 years. I might not only have a murse by then, but wear mancara and wear mens' tights -- apparently both are on the rise, especially in Europe. Go figure.)

**Charlie Mc.** · 3rd September 08, 12:41 AM

Originally Posted by CDNSushi

Although, they told me,

"There's no way you could come to Texas dressed like that though. You'd get your butt kicked!"

Speaking as someone from San Antonio, Texas that is, as you say, Baloney. I have spent a fair bit of time kilted in San Antonio. Mostly Utilikilts, but on a couple of occasions wore my great kilt, along with a bunch of my friends. We got an overwhelmingly positive response every time we went out kilted. I honestly cannot think of a negative comment, much less a threat to kick my butt. I am used to people not from Texas having silly stereotypes about it. It is kind of sad to say a couple of Texans encouraging those stereotypes.

**CDNSushi** · 3rd September 08, 01:48 AM

Originally Posted by Charlie Mc.

I honestly cannot think of a negative comment, much less a threat to kick my butt. I am used to people not from Texas having silly stereotypes about it. It is kind of sad to say a couple of Texans encouraging those stereotypes.

Yeah, too true about the stereotypes. In their defense (and I'm not sure if it's a legitimate one) however, they haven't lived there (in Texas) for almost 16 years so I'm pretty sure the Texas they remember has likely changed somewhat too...

**DTrain** · 2nd September 08, 07:19 PM

I can relate. My wife is of a similar stance. She rolls her eyes when I want to wear it, and doesn't like the attention it draws (neither the positive or the negative--smirks, smartaleck comments, etc.). I have forced the issue on occasion but this usually gets a cold, icy response and the tension between us is palpable. I keep trying to bring her around but its been a VERY SLOW process.

Rigged may have hit on a good idea to work the romantic angle. It's worth a shot.

**Alan H** · 2nd September 08, 08:34 PM

I had this issue, and I finally had to lay down the law.

MY clothes are MY choice, and while I love you, you will NOT tell me what to do.

Funny, but it hasn't been a significant issue, since then, and she's "seen with me" quite often when I'm in a kilt.

Again, be reasonable. Try education. Try the "slow break in " technique. Go to some Highland Games. Rent "Rob Roy". Don't be a jerk about it. Don't wear it on days that are HER days. Go slow. But if you do this for months on end and she still sees what you wear as her prerogative to define and throws a fit when you pull out a kilt, then mate.... In My Humble Opinion, you need to think about your relationship.

I really, really hope it doesn't come to that.