Pay back time?

[Downix]

I'm sure that distance and time may mend some wounds, as it did for me when i ran out the door not looking back years ago. (controlling mother, hmm sounds familiar...)

After this weekend with my wife and her controlling mother, I have to ask, am I the only person in the world with a mother that encourages their child, that does not control their lives or attempt to, who feels best when she sees me expressing myself as an individual?

[Smayniac]

After this weekend with my wife and her controlling mother, I have to ask, am I the only person in the world with a mother that encourages their child, that does not control their lives or attempt to, who feels best when she sees me expressing myself as an individual?

My mother is great, my father has come around, largely under the influence of his second wife(I think), but I too see alot of controlling parents out there.

Bob

[Carolina Kiltman]

My mother is great, my father has come around, largely under the influence of his second wife(I think), but I too see alot of controlling parents out there.

Bob

As a parent (four times over) Grandparent, and I hope to be a G-Grandparent in the not too distant future, I am fully aware of how difficult it is to let go of your children.

I was doubly blessed with two parents who's own parents were the controlling kind. (I won't go into details here). They had the wisdom and love to let go a bit at a time as we grew older.

Finally as young adults it amounted to making a statement of advice, once.
That was it, unless I (we) wanted to discuss it further.

There are some out there, but if yours are not, just understand, raising kids ain't easy!

Frank

[thanmuwa]

After this weekend with my wife and her controlling mother, I have to ask, am I the only person in the world with a mother that encourages their child, that does not control their lives or attempt to, who feels best when she sees me expressing myself as an individual?

Nope you're not alone, both my wife and I have (or had in the case of my wife's mother) wonderfully supportive parents. They may have shook their heads to themselves and thought "What on earth are they doing now?" but they never said it out loud . My mum thinks kilts are just for Scottish people, but she would never dream of dictating to me about it and was in fact very complimentary about my kilt wedding outfit...

[Sir Robert]

Just because your mother screwed up your wedding don't screw up hers, that is childish (pun intended).

However do attend hers in your best tartan dress and hubby in a kilt. Hell spend more money on your dress than she does on her's that will chap her...

Do rent the reception hall in your name so she can not toss you out, do let her know this.