Actually, I believe that the best response to the statement "Queer" is "Not as odd as you think." Salacious, slanderous, and bigoted comments really are not worthy of response. Hopefully they will grow out of that phase and enter into a nuanced understanding of different cultures and beliefs. If not they really are a**holes. Good on you and your spouse, and continue wearing your kilt with pride. PiperGeorge out.