Appropriety? (funeral)

[RamsayClanCommish]

For me, I think it is what is on your heart on not what is on your body that matters in any occassion be it wedding or funeral. I bristle at the notion some have that kilts are "clownish", "costumey", or just "inappropriate". My standard response? "With all due respect...go to Hell."

I have worn my kilt to various occassions not to make a statement or show off, but because I consider my kilt the finest piece of attire I own. I feel good wearing it, I am proud of my heritage and thus the kilt is part of who I am as a person, and it is a damn fine garment. When I show up at a event in my kilt it is because I am wearing my finest and showing the event or the person it honors the highest respect.

As for funerals and wedding...how many times have I went to see people in blue jeans or everyday clothes and not even wearing a tie? Yet these same people will snicker and thumb their nose at a kilt? Once again, "Go to Hell."

And when you go to such an event, are you going to worry about what some person will think or going to honor your friend or relative? You are not ashamed of who you are or what you wear and hopefully whoever you lay to rest accepted you and your choices as well. To go and not be kilted because of outside pressure seems a shame when all you want to do is pay the highest respects.

[piperdbh]

As a 'piper, I don't have much choice about what to wear to a funeral that I'm playing for. For "non-working" funerals, I say wear what you want, and go to honor the deceased. And while we're talking about that, I want to have my funeral before I die. That way, I can hear the good things folks have to say about me. Both of them.

There are only 2 or 3 in my family who are even interested in ancestry, and I'm the only kiltie on either side, and of the 4 family funerals I've attended in the last 10 years, I've played for all 4 of them. Folks probably wonder if the kilt and jacket and fly plaid and "them long socks" are my "funeral suit".

[Sammac]

I have been to funerals kilted, and usually wear black hose, jacket, white shirt and a plain dark green tie. Not to much tartan unless it's family.